12:04 pm Monday, 24th November, 2014
Bondage is not just for the BDSM lovers out there, it’s for anyone who wants to add a bit of spice to their relationship. Bondage may be a factor of BDSM but the belief that it is only used during a BDSM setting is a misconception, however it can be a gentle introduction into the BDSM lifestyle. Here’s our guide to beginner’s bondage.
Who, What, Where?
You need to discuss what you want out of bondage with your partner, is taking over your kind of thing and they want to surrender to you? Or perhaps you both like the thought of being tied up and taken advantage of, in which case you need to take it in turns? Where will your kinky play take place? The bedroom? The kitchen? Your back garden? What will you use for creating the knots? You need to prepare for everything, not only to make sure you get the most out of your kinky time but also to keep yourselves safe.
Think Safe Before You Get Sexy
Be particularly careful on deciding on where to have your fun. Tying them up in a steamy shower could be fantastically erotic but their hands are no longer free to catch and balance themselves. Your kitchen floor could be a majorly horny place to get down to it but there’s the obvious of sharp, heavy utensils, moving drawers and countless other dangerous items in your kitchen, well not just your kitchen but every room. So survey everything and safe-proof everything before having your fun as you will be at a disadvantage with one of you tied up and unable to do move out of the way or control their environment.
Get The Feel Of It
The material you use is best kept as something soft, flexible and easily accessible for starting out. You might want to go full on and buy a bunch of rope to hogtie your partner with but you need to transition into it before you get that stage. Something you have at home like a tie or stockings are perfect for beginners’ bondage as they’re forgiving on skin and you already have them so if you’re not keen on tying one another up after trying it, you haven’t wasted any money. Then even if it feels comfy once you’ve tied them up in big, thick rope, you need to take into account that you’re not going to be staying still for the whole time. Chances are, there’s going to be some back and forth movement which with a tough material like rope on skin that isn’t used to such treatment is going to cause some injuries. Also try not to use anything of value to tie them up just in case of the case of an emergency where you need to cut their ties in a hurry.
Bondage can be great fun, it gives extra sensation to the person tied up as their body is producing extra adrenaline as a natural response to being strained. Even though they’ve chosen this, it’s what humans have evolved to do when suddenly out of control of their own body. So more adrenaline, more blood rushing to the genitals and erogenous areas, fantastic sex. Now that we’ve given you the science behind it and the theory, go do the practical work.
