1:59 pm Monday, 23rd June, 2014
Tantric sex is a fantastic and loving type of sex, as opposed to having sex with the goal of an orgasm at the end it focuses on enjoying the sensations of sex itself and prolonging the act. Here’s some pointers for starting out with tantric sex and how you can appreciate the smaller pleasures of sex.
Pick Your Place
First things first, where are you going to be practicing tantric sex? Remember that this sexual act requires your full concentration so it’s best to allocate some stress-free space where you can get down to business. Clear the space and make it free from distractions, maybe invest in some incense or scented candles to really set the mood and soothe you both.
Two Become One
Tantric sex is often compared to yoga, for good reason, they have a lot in common including meditative properties and complete mental relaxation. It’s about letting go of everyday worries-this includes orgasming and living in the present moment and thoroughly enjoying not only the physical but also the emotional connection you and your partner are sharing. So your bodies and minds should be perfectly in sync, so start by harmonising breathing patterns so that when you inhale they exhale and vice-versa. Make sure you invest in a reasonable amount of foreplay, sex isn’t a race after all, especially tantric sex.
No-One Else In The World
What you’re aiming for is to forget there’s anyone else in the world, forget there’s such a thing as time, you no longer have work the next day or a phone which may have missed calls, it’s just the two of you, nothing exists outside of that room. By entering sex with this mentality where 100% of your mental, spiritual and emotional energy is concentrated into the present moment and your partner as one, you will sudden find yourself enjoying sex in ways you never could have imagined.
Tantric sex is a staple element of the kama sutra which teaches that love and sex should be one. There’s no one position or thing that you can do to enjoy sex the way it’s meant to be enjoyed according to the kama sutra, it’s about transforming your body’s energy into sexual energy. So by entering sex with a view to live in the moment as opposed to with the goal of an orgasm, you’re practicing tantric sex and not missing out on the best part of sex that is everything prior to orgasm. Sure orgasms are great but they’re more like the icing on the metaphorical sex cake!
