Swingers Party etiquette

There are no formal rules at swingers party or events but basic manners can take you a long way and make you more popular with other swingers


A Swingers party is a happening where adult couples and selected singles meet for an evening of free sex in a safe and friendly environment. This can take place at a private residence or at an actual swingers club where a relaxed atmosphere is created with candles, music, finger food and drinks.

You have to be over 18 in the UK if you want to attend a swinger party. Generally you won’t find anyone younger than 25 at a swapping party. Apart from the age factor a swingers party is really open to anybody. There are a lot of interracial swingers these days so you can expect to find people from many different races at sex parties.

The important thing to remember when you are going to a swingers event is that you are the guest and should behave like the guest. Couples have been ignored by other members for misbehaving at swingers parties.

It’s always important to greet your host and hostess when you arrive at a swingers party and to thank them afterwards. There will be the foyer where the host or hostess will great the guests and encourage them to grab a glass of champagne and mingle with the other guests. This is also the place where new members will get introduced to other couples.
If they like you then the chances of them inviting you to other parties are really good. Word of mouth is also huge in the swingers community and you will get a reputation as a likeable swinger.

Be polite to the other guests of the party or event. If they invite you for a threesome or a gang-bang that you don’t want to partake in then just gently say no thanks. Don’t insult them and never try to force yourself on other adults who don’t want you. Remember that no always means no. If you are in a situation where you are telling another member no and they don’t want to back off then go tell your hostess. It is their responsibility to keep all the guests in order and make sure that everyone is having fun.

There isn’t a lot of small talk going on at a swinger party, except for in the foyer. Most adults attend swapping parties to get free sex and then they leave. So don’t feel offended if the couple you just had sex with doesn’t invite you over for tea.

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