Perplexed by the site dynamics, the difference between BDSM and regular hookups plus a little etique

I'm finding this site perplexing. Do half the people on here even realize it's a BDSM website? BDSM is more than just looking for a good time. Yes sex during a BDSM scene can be super intense and totally rock your world but only if there is a connection and complete trust between the Dominant and the submissive. So looking to explore and have a good time doesn't really make me want to hit you up.
Also, submission is a gift. I am a strong capable woman. I desire a strong capable man that is able to see what I bring to the table and can dominate me but also demonstrate love and affection as well as the ability to laugh. Bring that to the table as well as an honest desire to find a submissive whose needs dovetail nicely with your own. If all of those things exist I will gladly submit and lose myself to his dominance.

Another thing of note...I am a Submissive so I do not want to peg anyone. I am not a switch. It doesn't matter if you can like a pussy six ways to Sunday I am not fucking your ass. 

No offence intended I don't kink shame, if switching is your thing more power to you. Find another switch to float your boat but don't hit up someone who is not a switch.

The reality is if I can top you, you cannot top me. Please stop messaging me if you are looking for a mistress. It's not only irritating it's poor etiquette. 
If as a dom the only criteria you are searching for is a sub who can take your ten inches morning, noon and night...walk on because there is way more to this particular dance than sex.
Rant over.

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