I'm finding this site perplexing. Do half the people on here even realize it's a BDSM website? BDSM is more than just looking for a good time. Yes sex during a BDSM scene can be super intense and totally rock your world but only if there is a connection and complete trust between the Dominant and the submissive. So looking to explore and have a good time doesn't really make me want to hit you up.
Also, submission is a gift. I am a strong capable woman. I desire a strong capable man that is able to see what I bring to the table and can dominate me but also demonstrate love and affection as well as the ability to laugh. Bring that to the table as well as an honest desire to find a submissive whose needs dovetail nicely with your own. If all of those things exist I will gladly submit and lose myself to his dominance.
Another thing of note...I am a Submissive so I do not want to peg anyone. I am not a switch. It doesn't matter if you can like a pussy six ways to Sunday I am not fucking your ass.
No offence intended I don't kink shame, if switching is your thing more power to you. Find another switch to float your boat but don't hit up someone who is not a switch.The reality is if I can top you, you cannot top me. Please stop messaging me if you are looking for a mistress. It's not only irritating it's poor etiquette. If as a dom the only criteria you are searching for is a sub who can take your ten inches morning, noon and night...walk on because there is way more to this particular dance than sex. Rant over.
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4:00 pm Monday, 30th March, 2020
This current madness has given us time for reflection. I enjoyed your writing-almost aroused. The relationship is certainly more than just sex- still sexual preference is at the heart of the relationship. Vanilla is a great flavor BUTT.... I’d suggest we meet for coffee at a public place you choose to discuss the possibilities when this madness ends. Do you have a song to sing? to write ? Are you a drum? a violin? a clarinet? 🎺 🎹 👩🎤? Take care. A lovely smile have you! J |
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8:56 am Sunday, 5th April, 2020
That is well said. I demand total submition based on love, respect and so much more than sex. But it is a cornerstone |
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2:28 pm Wednesday, 27th May, 2020
Well put, you want what you need and the other really needs to understand that 100%, no quarter given! |
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2:56 am Friday, 3rd July, 2020
You’re spot on with your explanation. Submission is earned through trust. The dim should treat the dub with utmost respect. |
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2:56 am Friday, 3rd July, 2020
You’re spot on with your explanation. Submission is earned through trust. The dim should treat the dub with utmost respect. |
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8:50 pm Tuesday, 18th August, 2020
You hit the nail on the head. I’d go further and say many don’t understand BDSM at all and only seek to use it as a means to excuse abusive behavior. Others are the Hollywood BDSMers the Fifty Shades of crap. That leaves a very select few signing an already small minority that truly understands the life style and enjoy the deep emotional bonding that takes place between those in the life style. |
I write BDSM erotica. I think the dance of dominance and submission is beautiful.
