Getting started - this is more work than it looked like in my head!

So I can go out and play now. Pretty straight forward, I thought.

Then I thought again.

I would like to come away from any encounter without unwanted gifts, and would like to be able to ensure the same for the people I am with. So to be on the safe side I should get tested, right? I have been in a monogamous relationship for almost 10 years now, and neither of us has strayed, but it would be nice to have it on paper. Besides, when I started my research all sorts of horror stories came up about being a symptom-less carrier or diseases. Urgh. I did not appreciate the pictures on some of these sites!

So what to do now? Do I just walk into my GP surgery and ask for a test? Some websites say you only get them for free if you are under 25. And do I need to give a reason? I live in a fairly small village, so if hubby and I go for tests, will the all-to-familiar nurse assume one of us has slept around?

Then the topic of safe sex. Condoms for intercourse, sure. But it has been years since I tried to give a blowjob with a condom on - and it wasn't nice when I tried back in the day. Flavoured ones are even worse to be honest. Dick should smell of dick and not banana, raspberry or coca cola! So some practice with hubby will be required.
Dental dams have been ordered for him to practice with, I wonder if they feel as offputting as they sound. Again, I think we might have to practice.

I get the feeling that we are going to be more intimate with each other than we have in ages, all for the sake of then getting our jollies off elsewhere! Tis a strange life :)

So yeah, please appreciate that until we have things sorted out in all those respects, I won't respond to requests for meet-ups. Sorry to all the people who messaged me about that!

--Wistful

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