I only registered a few days ago and was immediately inundated with messages - which really perplexed me, given that I had not yet put a picture up, or even talked about what it is I am looking for!
Anyways, I thought I'd just put a quick blog post up to talk more the questions I have been asked.
Back when I was dating my husband he mentioned he was into bondage. I guess we should have spent more time discussing the subject, but he was too relieved that I didn't run a mile after he told me to dwell on the subject, and I naively had images of silk scarves and handcuffs in my mind and didn't think any more of it.
It became clear after a while (once the nipple clamps, spreader bars, rope and Vetrap had made an appearance) that I had gotten more than I bargained for. That was cool though, I am pretty happy to try anything once, and I am extremely happy to have made the acquaintance of the Magic Wand! :)
However, whereas for me this sort of thing would be a kinky way to spice up my sex from time to time, it is more than that to him. Not just a little add-on to be dabbled with from time to time, but what he is interested in full-stop, with a dash of vanilla on the side from time to time - exactly the reverse of myself.
Add to this that he is very submissive; I am happy to tie up my fella from time to time, but I felt uncomfortable being the one who is always in control. Especially since it meant investing time researching creative ideas in a subject that simply isn't this important to me, to keep things interesting for him - nobody wants the same old all the time!
Once the suggestion of finding additional play partners for us was brought up, we discussed if I had any particular fantasies I would like to indulge in. Sure do!
Hubby is exclusively straight, and I find 2 men together extremely hot, love watching the odd gay porn movie. During my teenage years I was lucky enough to experience a threesome with an on-off boyfriend and his mate, and this has been one of the most erotic experiences of my life so far. Now the idea of getting all hot and bothered with two fellas who aren't shy to touch each other as well as me makes me squirm on my seat! :)
I know that he would probably feel uncomfortable with even accidental brushes against another guy, so this is something I thought I would never get to experience - so in a way, him finding a playmate elsewhere has given me some sexual freedom I never thought I would experience again :)
Side note: I don't mind girls either, even had a girlfriend for about a year in my late teens, which is why I have ticked bisexual in the profile box. But this is something my husband would be happy to take part in, so I am not really looking to join any M/F couples on here, sorry! I can do that at home :P
I hope that answers some of the questions I have received?
--Wistful
