On Introducing A Sub

   The following is necessarily short on detail...
   Introducing someone to S&M play for the first time, there are certain things that I like to touch on.
   Firstly, trust is massively important. A prospective submissive of mine must understand that ultimately it is them that holds the power. Furnished with their safe word they may stop proceedings at any point, instantly, and trust that their decision will be respected. It is extremely rare that my submissive will need to do so, and I feel it to be a failing on my part should this actually occur. This brings me to my next maxim; know your subject, what turns them on, what they desire, and therefore tailor actions accordingly. Good communication beforehand is essential, I find.
   Which brings me to planning. Before a session I will think and plan and prepare, aiming to present the best seamlessly magnificent experience that I am capable of. As a male my climax is a trifling affair next to that of a woman, and my enjoyment stems in the main through provoking my sub to prolonged heights of pleasure as I exert my dominance, and in a job well done.
   I must also be aware of the responsibility inherent in my position, using my experience. In the heat of a session it is not unknown for my subject to get carried away, and I never wish to do any lasting or unfortunate injury even when implored to do so. A backside beaten black and blue can be a most awkward thing to explain should it be noticed...
   My own personal preference on the first session is to deny full sex (that is to say penetration) to my submissive after bringing them to the point where they crave nothing more, and therefore reinforcing my dominance. I always aim to leave them wanting more, eager for further exploration, and hopefully blown away by their experience. Somewhat sadly, yet conversely at the same time joyous, I can report that it is not unknown for me to bring a woman to her first orgasm ever at another's instigation, even having reached her thirties, forties, and on one occasion their fifties. If nothing else, these facts alone demonstrate the power of kinkiness!
   Should there be the interest, I may elaborate further on this short effort in the future.
   Happy playtime, happily  pervy people     x

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