To Swing or not to Swing? Concept of a 'trust couple'

We are a Swinger couple, married and secure in our relationship and our ability to please each other in different endeavours of life, including Sex and desires of the flesh. But we still chose to go one step higher. We chose the 'Red Pill' over the other mundane options that were up for grabs and let me tell you that we haven't felt lesser in anyway after making our choice. On the contrary we feel liberated on many levels. It is quite surprising considering all the talk about moral righteousness and the kind of moral policing being dealt or shoved in your face in India (where we live - for now). At least now, there are no hidden motives or agendas among me and my wife; the need for pleasure out there in the open in front of your soul mate. Clearly you are not being judged in any manner or that is not the intended outcome that had motivated us to go that extra mile. As the guy in the relationship, I can tell you that my craving to be more intimate with my better half has been met. All my secrets are hers now. There is a universal balance at stake, an equilibrium that even nature is trying to attain, which maybe as the fabled Yin and Yang, our energies would have moved ever more slightly towards attaining. We understand now more clearly, the need for restraint, the need for empathy towards others. We recognise the need for inclusion irrespective of cast, creed or religion. We have felt the benefit of connecting with others, loving a stranger unconditionally for a night or more maybe and getting pleasure from them attaining their Sexual release.

I can go on for pages, celebrating all that is positive about polyamoury. But, keep in mind that you are in a land where this is looked with more disdain perhaps than an LGBT relationship! Ofcourse you will meet your share of pushy, vile, 'attached for the course of a night couples', self-engrossed & selfish beings. But remain clear about one thing - this about you (incase Swinging solo the partner angle wouldn't apply obviously) and your partner. You are in control of what goes on and how it goes on. You create your experiences keeping in view the comforts of other whom you interact with and in the case that there is even an Iota of disagreement you need to remove yourself from the situation. In such situations I cannot emphasize the importance of at 'trust couple'. I don't know if there is another name for this (as I coined it for my ease of reference and lucid communication). However, the concept is plain and simple - they are your backup of sorts. They are your Tango if you are Cash, Alfred if you are the Batman, so on and so forth. I hope you catch my drift and let someone (maybe one or more than one) trustworthy know of your shenanigans and give them a heads-up in case things go awry. And they should be committed enough to be there for your rescue and resourceful enough to get you guys out of the spot - all unscathed. I would also suggest you guys develop code words and a safe word amongst yourselves that if uttered verbally (over phone) or via SMS would convey different levels of trouble and trouble free zones respectively. This would help you in the case something unplanned or untoward were to happen and would also prepare your saviour in enacting an apt rescue strategy.

With that said, I sincerely hope that you never have to face a situation wherein you have to use it. For all you sceptics out there, NO; no amount of planning or casual meets can save you from an adverse scenario as we have external elements to factor in every scenario - sometimes this can turn out to be beyond our comprehension. But, as the saying goes - better prepared than not. Happy Swinging folks.

P.S.- If you have accepted the role of a 'trust couple' be cognizant of the fact that it is a serious responsibility. The target has trusted you with his life and it cannot be taken lightly in anyway. Also be aware that this is not a popularity contest - the law of span of control (for all management geeks out there) applies here equally. A quick breakdown of the law or thumbrule would be as follows:
No matter how noble your intentions or how capable you feel you are or how connected you perceive yourself to be, you as a couple (or an individual) cannot successfully carryout this responsibility for more than 10 couples or individuals (targets). So choose your targets carefully and once the magic number 10 is attained, accept no more or an even better suggestion - pass on the responsibility to one of your capableb and willing target.

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