Husband
Ten years ago (or there abouts) Wife and I started out on a journey.
Being sensible types and understanding that knowledge is power, we turned to mankinds greatest ever repository of wisdom: the internet, hoping to find sensible, articulate and intelligent articles written by people in a similar situation to our own.
While able to find some literature that we found interesting almost all of what we found seemed written by practitioners far older and more experienced than ourselves. Keep it in mind dear reader we were just nineteen when setting out on this path.
With trial and error, and a few stumbles along the way, Wife and I have, over the last ten years, forged a rock solid relationship based on the concept that I refer to in my head as “reasonable total power exchange”. To summarise this in short (and we’ll go into far more depth in later blog entries), Wife does precisely as Husband says to the standard that Husband says is acceptable and when Husband and Wife differ in opinion Husband’s opinion is the trump card. Husband’s obligation is to always be reasonable with his use of this power. And that reader is really all there is to it.
It is our intention to create an account of both the good and bad sides of our relationship, and to outline how we overcome problems along the way, in the hope that our experiences may one day help another couple who realise young in their adulthood that this lifestyle is for them.
I, through what I have seen with Wife and experienced for myself, am convinced that both sides in a relationship such as ours can be fulfilling, exciting and loving above and beyond what most people achieve in a conventional marriage. It is also my belief that both sides of the relationship has hard bits and easy bits. For a relationship of this nature the key elements are trust and honesty. Without both of these key elements a relationship of this type has no chance of succeeding. Therefore I will close my introduction with one simple piece of advice, never no matter which side of the dominant/submissive fence you sit on, try and make a relationship of this nature with somebody who you don’t already share these components with. It would be doomed to failure and no happiness would be derived for either party for any length of time.
With that said, welcome to our world. I look forward to sharing with you more of my thoughts on power exchange relationships soon.
Wife
I am the submissive half of a dominant/submissive marriage. During the past ten years there have been many ups and downs and plenty of “discussions” on the path that our relationship would lead. While I won’t pretend that we have found the magic path to a “perfect marriage”, with the divorce rate as high as it is, the fact that after ten years we are still in a loving and happy marriage that we both want to continue in seems pretty perfect to me.
I have always had a “need to please” attitude and find that is Husband is unhappy then so am I, even if his unhappiness is in no way anything to do with me or my behaviour. If however, my behaviour has caused his unhappiness (and unfortunately even after ten years this does sometimes still occur) then my unhappiness is almost unbearable. I find it almost impossible to think of anything else until I have found a way (or more likely he has found a way) of me “making up” for my bad behaviour.
While Husband may have, at times, chosen paths that I might not have chosen myself, I have always found his judgements to work out well in the end. Imagination is definitely one of his strengths and my weaknesses and in my opinion imagination is required to stop a marriage from becoming boring.
There have been times of pain (as you will have seen if you’ve checked out my pictures) and times of great pleasure. However the pain, while difficult for me to endure at the time, gives me even greater pleasure afterwards. This is why I am happy to endure pain for Husband’s pleasure as he is never selfish when he chooses to dish out pleasurable experiences in return. He has a magical way with words and has taken me to levels of ecstasy that I never knew existed.
Husband wishes for me to report on the positive and negative aspects of being a submissive in a dominant/submissive relationship. Over the coming posts I will try my best to give you my views and opinions on the highs and lows of the relationship.
