Having been on this site (which is better by far than most) it occurred to me how many
postings there are from women who want to be taught, want to learn, has many fantasies
but has not found the courage (or the person) to take them to the next step.
While i am quite sure many ladies just browse postings and perhaps send out a "hi" its mostly
just because they are master bating to their fantasy.
Truth be told there are plenty of bad stories out there where a woman met a "pretend" dom
who ended up being a rude ass and even abusive. Lots of scary examples out there.
HOWEVER there are many good dominants out there that really care for the safety of their
sub and think with their brain and not below their belt.
First of all a d/s relationship has little to do with intercourse or love making. Yet when u
ladies post an ad saying your looking for a dominant what you normally get is a guy that
simply wants to f___you and has no clue about dominating
So how do you spot a reply or ad that may not be in your best interest??
1) They post or reply their ad with a d___ pic. That shows no class, self respect and is
the last thing a true dominant would send. Im quite sure you ladies have seen plenty of
d___pics by now
4) In short order then your called slut and various other demeaning names.
Ladies this is NOT a dominant ! This is a P>I>G>.
SO HOW TO LOOK FOR A POTENTIAL DOMINANT?
1) First of all none of the above happens.
2) he is willing to email, text, and take all the time you need to go forward and appreciates
your new and excited yet scared at the same time. He creates your hunger as the more
comfortable you are the more you ease into being able to let go.
3) when you communicate he asks you a thousand questions of your likes and dislikes
because a "REAL DOM" cares.
4) He never asks for a "hook up" because he recognizes the tremendous risk for a woman
to meet a stranger for sex. STUPID!!!
5) Instead he asks you to meet for coffee or a drink in a public place with NO SEX as its
possible there is no connection on one of your parts so eliminates someone forced
to deal with rejection or going ahead with something they will regret.
6) a real dominant will provide and demand you have a safe word.
7) the first couple of times you play he will not ask if he can tie you up and in fact he will
tell you that he doesn't want to and why? Once again because he cares about you.
Finally i will tell you that if your meeting a potential dominant make sure you let someone
no your are meeting someone. Also show up early and know what he is driving and by
now you know what he is wearing and looks like. When he arrives let him go in first
then as you go in stop and write down the description of car and license plate and send to
your friend.
I realize all of this sounds way over the top and way to paranoid and filled with caurion
however there is reason why C_______list GOT SHUT DOWN WITH THE "PERAONALS"
It is unfortunately that a few "pretend" dominants ruin it for the rest of us.
Ladies just be smart and cautious along with good vetting. When i talk with a potential
sub and it seems like were compatible i tell my full name and for her to "google me".
Finding a good dominant is a wonderful experience that you should pursue and satisfy
that hunger.......Just be smart
Stephen
