In a hook up culture where everyone is looking for something casual with no strings attached it's next to impossible to find someone who's looking for something real. Everyone looks at each other's profile pics and judges their worthiness in 2 seconds or less. It's especially difficult for men as the ratio is nowhere near even, meaning that there's potentially dozens of men vying for every one real woman.
It's incredibly frustrating trying to find a REAL connection in an environment like that. In some ways I'm a pretty good catch on here. I'm genuine. I'm real. I still believe in that silly concept called love and am still trying to find it. I love to spoil the woman I'm with. Treat her special. Surprise her with little notes left in lunchboxes or remembering something ob****ure she mentioned a long time ago and surprising her with it. Physically I'm very affectionate. Kissing, touching, caressing, lots of foreplay and a high sex drive but even without sex still enjoying just casual physical contact and public displays of affection. Smart, creative, educated, respectful yet passionate, great career.
So what's the problem? Why can't I seem to catch anyone's notice? Is it because I'm a few extra pounds? Maybe. With dozens of men vying for every one woman it's easy to wait for some amazing physical specimen to come around. Or is it because I'm actually looking for something long term in a hookup culture? Is that I still believe in and want actual love and most people are just looking for casual booty calls?
I'm not sure but either way it's incredibly frustrating.
