Attached Live in couples - what is swinging like

Attached / Live in couples - what is swinging like :-

Hi all,

This has encouraged me to write another blog sharing our experience and perspective of meeting attached/Live in couples.

Many times we read in various profile - looking for married couples and even like us many are sceptical to meet non married/attached/Live in couples. When we came across attached cpls profile in the past we used to doubt our approach hence never met them. We were hesitant not bcoz they are not married but never had clearly taught of how we proceed and how we interact. Simple reason is with married cpls the same set of queries are applicable to clarify the doubts and ease the moment.

But when it comes to non married cpl may be we ask too many questions and make them uncomfortable. And we strongly believe - in swinging we should be what we are and be frank and clarify all our doubts before we proceed or decide to make a move.

For us it’s never a one night stand or one meet moment, bcoz we always are optimistic to meet the same people male or cpl again and again or atleast be in touch. Hence it’s but obvious to ask and clarify doubts.

But swinging beyond sex is to explore and meet new people and hence Simran and I decided to meet non married couples, talk to them and see what it is like. End of the day it’s just circumstances due to which there are couples but not married.

Hence we could always connect and still experience swinging with them the same way we do with married couples.

Trust me we met 3 couples and out of which with 2 we did interact well and had fun. It’s not about success ratio but more importantly how was our experience and what we feel now is what we want to share......

This is how it starts - first we read profile and then the doubts starts creeping in since they don’t speak much about themselves in the profile. They prefer to meet and share. We might be wrong but that’s our observation. Hence we then prolong the messaging/chatting period and try to get as much as info as possible. But that too is a hurdle since we are unable to catch up on a voice call or a quick video call too due to availability constraint.

The next best thing we hope is - a good effective and efficient communication on messaging platform where they are ready to put in effort to answer few queries and atleast make us optimistic about the social meet to start with, fun aspect is far away.

There is a moment of anxiety as with married couples we knows how it goes but with attached or live in couple it might be straight 1 or 0. A bit luck quotient creeps in too. To be frank both the 3 couples we met, we were more than pleased to see them in better frame of mind and makes it easy for us to drive the conversation further. Once we greet and get settled to order something the silence zone beings. It is not easy to break zone since we don’t know which topic to begin, hence we ask them if any queries. For them it’s easy to ask since we are married - again I might be wrong.

But after giving them details about our experience we smartly fire in a question asking how they met and why attached or live in. That’s the ice breaking point - if the couples are experienced swinger they give an answer which convinces you and make it easy to understand how the grass is on other side.
And mainly if female is also equally interactive and participates in the conversation then it makes the whole environment relaxed and the weird ness and hesitancy to ask questions vanishes. Here after it’s the same natural approach and matter of flowing with the situation so as to comfort the females.

In next 15-20 mins we are in the same zone as meeting married couples. Even during fun it’s the similar approach as with married couples if we decide to go ahead.

Things become complicated if the non married couples are newbies - based on our effort and experience for now we decided to not meet non married newbies couples. Not bcoz we don’t want to put effort to be a stepping stone but mere to the fact that they have so many doubts about swinging it’s not easy to go through till the end. Even the male partner seems confused and thus the outcome is no further chat no further comms.

I don’t want to express how the sex was with them bcoz it’s the same as with married couples. But a bit diff level due to the fact that they are ready to explore individually tooo.

Final question - apart from the sex part what we learnt after meeting non married couples.And we are so so glad to tell you that the more you deep dive in swinging with an optimistic view looking for something new in every journey - you will discover something in you.

We discovered - DRDP.
We never ever taught about it but after the experience shared by attached couples and thinking from their perspective it seems possible for us. We also think now DRDP could spice our swinging life and being another dimension to it.

Thanks to the attached and live in couples we met. Hope to meet you soon and hope circumstances get better for everyone to enjoy as a married couple too.

HAPPY SWINGING TO ALL.

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