Acted on impulse... Ended up getting my feelings hurt

Last month I told the glamorous side of a tryst that I should never have had. I knew I shouldn't be doing it when I was getting dressed to go do it. And whereas I don't have any regrets, I fear that I have set a bad precedent. 

I said from the first time that I met this person that I was not interested in just "hooking up". I still wound up doing just that. 

I admit it was fun. But I thought that at least I would be friends with this person. Instead I get no friendly communication of any kind. No simple texts, no invites to lunch or the movies. What I get are texts and voice mails during the obscene hours of the late night/early morning soliciting sex. And if I say that I am busy, or don't respond because I am trying to get some rest (now that summer break is over, my day starts at 5am) there's the attempted guilt-laced appeal. 

He doesn't care at all about how my day was, or what I may be experiencing or involving myself in. A week will go by, and if/when he feels some kind of way (or when he can get his family out of the house), that is when I am worth acknowledging.

I am not looking for that. I said that. And I feel like I may be judged based on being swayed into having a little fun after five years of nothing at all.

It sucks. 

So I have cut that off before it gets ugly. My feelings are hurt and I take responsibility for making it possible. But I have to hold myself to a standard, and follow my instincts. A person will call you by the name you answer to. And my name is not "every third saturday night". 

So... if someone could please help me find the line here, because I may end up shutting down completely and just giving up. 

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