As I have gotten older and wiser (hopefully) I have found my kinks and sexual tastes have both changed...and stayed the same.
When I was younger it was all kinetics, like a shark, move or die. I had a fair number of sexual partners, some vanilla, most a varying shades of grey (refused to read those books or watch those movies btw). It was the grey ones that seemed to hold my attention the longest, the ones I remember more clearly. These stand as markers along my journey in the lifestyle, as I grew more confident and knowledgeable the more boundaries and limits I could push more effectively, both for my subs, and for me.
With all that I have done and experienced I know I still have a lot to learn and grow, this is not a destination but a journey and the secret to any such journey is who you have as a partner, gone are the days of "any sub'll do" you have to have one that challenges you to be a better Dom, and by that I don't mean one that is bratty or obnoxious so they can get punished (never really understood that...want a spanking, just ask), I mean one makes you want to be better, to be worthy of her submission because her submission is a gift to you like your Domination is a gift to her...so I find being ultra picky these days, looking and looking for someone who has the right attributes that will inspire me to find new and creative ways to test and push her limits, and mine.
I am still kinetic these days, it is just focused more internally than externally, always pushing myself to learn and grow so I can better push limits, hers and mine.
