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Being A Femme (lesbian) in a Patriarchal Society

8:14 am Tuesday, 10th April, 2018

I know that dealing with personal gender identity is had, but having to make the society understand who you truly is even harder. being out of the closet was not my biggest problems because halve of my family was supportive- or pretending to to be because they did not want to lose me to the world, so they new that by giving me support I wouldn't have to run to the arms of all strangers to get some sense of belonging.

I like to think of my self as pretty, smart, approachable (to all genders), am not flexing but I have come to understand that self-acceptance and self- pride boosts your confidence levels. So yes friends Brea is Pretty.

 Then again, men in my society would ask me out, and when i reject them they will ask me, "Why are you wasting all this beauty to other woman?You are so beautiful why are you dating girls? How do you lesbians have sex? Do get satisfied with fingers? all these nasty questions you can ever think of"...For a very long time i despised men for such questions, but now that am older and wiser I understand that they ask all these questions because they lack knowledge. 

Who ever said you need to be ugly to be lesbian, because i cannot be pretty enough to be straight as well. Men think everything revolve around them and the penis, and it's funny because some of their penis are smaller than my High Heeled Shoes,# Am just saying#

Men respect us n our gender chosen identities... it's who we are!
As for me I love me some#boobs n buns# God took his time when HE perfected EVE.✌️✌️😊



Comments
6:17 pm Sunday, 12th April, 2020

I hear you loud and clear hun x

3:08 pm Saturday, 18th April, 2020

Hi, I feel your pain and understand. Not all men are the same and not all social attitudes (in different countries) are the same neither. I have learnt that one cannot generalise at all. I have seen people's attitudes change totally towards gay people in our country. Our country has only lately legalised gay marriage. Gay couples can also adopt. I livedshared an apartment with a lesbian couple and both their parents did not know....so at times I posed as their boyfriend especially at family weddings or similar functions !
Maybe i am very understanding about this issue because I am ' a lesbian entrapped in a male body' as my lesbian friends used to tell me lol

5:09 pm Tuesday, 21st April, 2020

Hii

12:05 pm Wednesday, 29th April, 2020

 Babe not all us men are so judgemental, thank god. I am saddened to hear that you couldn’t find the backing from your family and that must have hurt you deeply. Sweetheart a word of encouragement , big up your self worth and may you find the true happiness that you crave and deserve. Love Charlie x

6:39 am Saturday, 2nd May, 2020

I think the comments you have gotten from men are due to anger after being rejected. Men are generally a lot cruder than women with choice of language. Gay men get the same, "straight" men often assume that all sex has to be penetrative. This is because that is how sex is with them ,therefore it's now sex unless is involves penetration. 
Just be happy , you deserve it. The world is slowly becoming more accepting.

9:59 am Friday, 8th May, 2020

As A man who hates his gender. I couldn't agree with you more. Not all, but most men are abrasive and rash. Your right about the penis remark too. They think with that rather than their minds and hearts xx 

7:17 pm Wednesday, 20th May, 2020

Hi

7:17 pm Wednesday, 20th May, 2020

Hi

7:18 pm Wednesday, 20th May, 2020

Xxx

10:30 am Monday, 1st June, 2020

Let’s talk 

10:59 am Monday, 1st June, 2020

Hy Hw 

11:06 am Monday, 1st June, 2020

Yes 

3:18 pm Monday, 1st June, 2020

Yes talk honey 

3:56 pm Monday, 1st June, 2020

Hi 

7:34 pm Monday, 1st June, 2020

Are you there honey 

1:04 pm Friday, 5th June, 2020

Hi

4:00 pm Friday, 5th June, 2020

God your hot let’s 

5:51 pm Sunday, 14th June, 2020

Awesome 🤗

11:20 pm Tuesday, 16th June, 2020

Wow#live your life

11:20 pm Tuesday, 16th June, 2020

Wow#live your life

11:20 pm Tuesday, 16th June, 2020

6:51 pm Thursday, 18th June, 2020

The human world is changing, at least here you have a forum to express yourself. Personally I'm glad to read views from everybody because it can help my understanding. Stay strong, stay safe and keep writing. 

12:17 pm Wednesday, 8th July, 2020

Hii 

12:17 pm Wednesday, 8th July, 2020

Hii 

8:30 am Thursday, 9th July, 2020

Excuse me hi please chack
Your had inside their how much waere one waere cutting 

6:08 pm Tuesday, 14th July, 2020

Ys

8:26 pm Monday, 27th July, 2020

Awww eh... I used to hear the same lines from men, like their dick would magically turn me straight. Lol I liked dick just wasn’t mostly sexually interested in men.  
Also I wasn’t sure from a young age how female I was. As I aged, learning more about gender and myself I came to the decision that I wanted to present as a male, use masculine pronouns etc although I’m still very in touch with my birth gender, femininity- like two spirited and can relate deeply to non binary gender (persons)
This process of transition for me, came with a great deal of self reflection. I had to face that if I wanted to be a man although I did not have the best opinion of men because of many negative experiences by men. And being a man in a world that I didn’t agree with being so masagony. How being a man for me would look like physically, my body as I didn’t like ever having breasts though didn’t need a penis... this means a level that I have to engage discloses with others when it comes to sex. With this i also learned oddly after years of being a homo I had some minor homophobia because I didn’t want to be seen as gay. I discovered this when being at the queer club, a bar I used to frequent as ‘lesbian’ now I was being approached by many men. It wasn’t that I had any problems with gay men it was that I liked women (still). Thou these feelings, the idea, the internal I had need to address because it was my problem.   I think I've become a better person because of this, that I’ve been gained more prospective.  

Side note: women are beautiful though I find I’m less confident at complimenting them firstly just on their looks, because it’s just how their looks makes me feel. I find there’s many women I’m attracted to! It’s the easier part. I hold my tongue, ha, because I don’t want to objectify them. I know we all have beauty deeper than skin! And really that’s how we jam together.   Am I alone on this? 
 When I was younger I found courage to pickup now at forty I’m more shy, awkward sometimes the opposite of showing my potential. I want to be confident. Guess I’ve got fear to work on. Always growing eh;) 

4:12 pm Friday, 14th August, 2020

disagree!

4:14 pm Friday, 14th August, 2020

TEST TREST

9:06 am Tuesday, 22nd September, 2020

❤️🌈☠️

7:26 pm Tuesday, 6th October, 2020

in solidarity

1:01 pm Saturday, 17th October, 2020

Hi

3:52 pm Tuesday, 20th October, 2020

Truth

7:08 pm Sunday, 1st November, 2020

hi

8:13 pm Wednesday, 4th November, 2020

Here we go again !
You expect the world to just around you as soon as you come out of the closet. 

Its good that you have come out and more power to you.. However let us not paint all men with the same brush. 

3:12 pm Wednesday, 11th November, 2020

Would love to meet you Lic you & fingers your pussy

8:44 am Wednesday, 18th November, 2020

good 

6:07 pm Wednesday, 18th November, 2020

Hii

12:25 pm Saturday, 28th November, 2020

Hi

8:04 pm Saturday, 12th December, 2020

Hhhhi

8:04 pm Saturday, 12th December, 2020

Hhhhi

2:20 am Thursday, 17th December, 2020

I like u

5:13 am Thursday, 17th December, 2020

5:02 pm Sunday, 20th December, 2020

Hi

5:02 pm Sunday, 20th December, 2020

Hi

8:13 am Wednesday, 23rd December, 2020

So us ignorant men still like to know the answer to those burning questions.

1:11 pm Saturday, 26th December, 2020

That’s fine and dandy but you still have to post correct gender

7:59 am Monday, 28th December, 2020

You're beautiful inside and out!

10:01 am Monday, 28th December, 2020

I don't understand the problem.

8:21 am Friday, 1st January, 2021

Hello

8:21 am Friday, 1st January, 2021

Hello

5:59 am Friday, 8th January, 2021

Don't worry about the way some of my fellow men are. A lot of them are also secretly want to make a change but they are gutless men. 

11:46 am Sunday, 10th January, 2021

Yes

2:01 am Tuesday, 26th January, 2021

Hi

2:01 am Tuesday, 26th January, 2021

11:57 am Thursday, 4th February, 2021

Hii

6:09 am Wednesday, 24th February, 2021

Hi

3:07 am Friday, 26th February, 2021

Hello

10:25 am Friday, 5th March, 2021

💔💔💔

2:32 am Wednesday, 10th March, 2021

Hi

9:55 am Friday, 12th March, 2021

Hii sexy

6:32 am Sunday, 21st March, 2021

🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓

4:33 am Monday, 22nd March, 2021

Amen im actually  going what your going  through on then other  side of the spectrum 

7:19 am Saturday, 17th April, 2021

Hey..
Looking gorgeous 

1:03 pm Tuesday, 20th April, 2021

U r a fantastic woman an I wish u all the love to n the world Hun X Tilly 

2:38 am Friday, 30th April, 2021

come to the UK, no one cares! 

2:40 am Friday, 30th April, 2021

you know about and can spell Patriarchal Society but can`t spell simple words Hmmm!

9:36 pm Monday, 10th May, 2021

fuckibg is good

7:36 pm Tuesday, 11th May, 2021

Sounds like a lot of hyper self inflation and heroism via being a victim , along with so many grammatical and spelling errors . But on the flip side you came to the realization that men truly didn’t knw and was asking because it goes against what humanity has known for thousands of years as male female norms seeing no human came about via homosexuality. I like the part at the end to respect your imagined gender identity which rightfully men should but you should also respect their grasp of biological science if inclusion is the aim 

11:26 pm Tuesday, 11th May, 2021

Very well said Sis 💃💃🥂💨

11:26 pm Tuesday, 11th May, 2021

👠👠

8:31 pm Thursday, 20th May, 2021

Hi

1:35 pm Tuesday, 1st June, 2021

As a women i like to say only few truth words that this our own life how we lives our beautiful lesbian life no men can understand nor imagine our fantasy 

5:33 am Thursday, 3rd June, 2021

I turned my friend on describing to her a threesome we would have with a lesbian.  I told her of the gentle touches and lisses she might be surprised by and seduced by

2:29 pm Monday, 21st June, 2021

I am a fairly traditional man in my thinking, but in all honesty homosexuality is not a topic that interests me much.  What I mean is what people do in their bedroom is their business.  If you like women and are a woman, I say good for you.  All that means to me is you are not a potential romantic partner for me.  Maybe you and I share some non-sexual interest that would cause us to be friends?  If say you liked to hike, I'd grab my dog and we'd go on a hike together.  At the end of the hike we'd shake hands and you could go home to your girlfriend, I'd go home to mine.  No big deal.  I don't see the Patriarchal aspect at all myself.

5:56 pm Tuesday, 29th June, 2021

STFU

6:15 am Tuesday, 20th July, 2021

Hlo
What's 

1:36 pm Tuesday, 20th July, 2021

I give you my cock

4:16 pm Friday, 23rd July, 2021

Well said!

7:55 am Tuesday, 27th July, 2021

Hi beautiful 

7:00 am Wednesday, 28th July, 2021

Hi

12:51 pm Wednesday, 25th August, 2021

Hi

12:51 pm Wednesday, 25th August, 2021

Nice so beautiful

9:37 am Sunday, 29th August, 2021

Don't worry what other people think your happy who you are that's what counts

3:11 pm Tuesday, 31st August, 2021

Well said

9:22 pm Tuesday, 28th September, 2021

Hi

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