This is most important question which I have come across many a times in past i.e. How to get my wife/partner into swinging.
First, you should take your time and discuss with your Wife/Partner for you to make a decision whether swinging is an adventure that you will really like to pursue. You may be that kind of a person who cannot see her with another man, in case you are that kind of a person, then swinging may not be the right thing for you to engage in. In case you will take it, then it will start with communications. Take your time and sit down with her for you to discuss the positives and negatives that you will encounter after you decide to join the lifestyle. Im case after you sit down to discuss and you cannot convince her, then let it go. Swing may not be your lifestyle. It will be bad for you to forceher into the relationship and you end up divorcing for you to learn that she is doing it with someone else after you have divorced.
Maybe you are reluctant to intrude the topic of swinging to her, you should be careful and introduce it in a strategic way. Some of the ways you can use it to introduce it is through a joke where you are relaxing together and you introduce the topic. You can make a joke and tell her you had a dream seeing her with someone else. After you say to her such strong words, try to weigh the way she will react. In case that is hard, then take her to a strip club where you will buy her a lap dance. At the club you will have an opportunity to introduce the topic. You can also introduce it in your pillow talk and try to tell her you had imagined seeing her with someone else. You should introduce the topic strategically so that in case she rejects the offer and become bitter, you will have a way of escaping-from the conversation unhurt.
What you should avoid: -
✓ Never check swing sites without her knowledge.: -
Even if you have developed the idea and you will like to research more about it, it will be very-hard for you to convince her into it in case she will discover-that you had been checking swinger websites without her knowledge. Instead you should invite her and check the websites together.
✓ Don’t set up a profile without her knowledge.: -
Setting a profile in the swinger websites will send out a message to her that you are already a swinger. This will make it very-hard for you to convince her into joining the lifestyle. Setting up a profile should be the last thing which you will do after you reach an agreement of-becoming swinging couples.
In case after introducing the topic you discover-she is interested, then you should go on and check out swinger websites. You should always start your sexual revolution together. From the swinger website you will also access more information which will clear doubts in you and know what will be expected of you as swingers.
Hope this article of mine have answered your long awaited question & clear the bug which is running all the time-inside your mind. Wish you all the luck on expressing your views in a more mature way.
N.B.: - Never pressurized your wife/partner for swinging. Discuss-and-try convincing her/him.
