I end up talking to a lot of women explaining Polyamory and how my wife and I still love each other very much and are indeed happily married. we just recognize that there are parts we don't fulfill for each other. So we both date outside the marriage to fulfill the parts missing inside it.
She has a boyfriend she loves deeply. I'm looking for that again myself.
Why end a perfectly good marriage, just because neither one of us is "perfect" for each other. That's kind of absurd when you think about it, nobody is perfect. I certainly am not!
So I end up pretty much going over the same basic ground over who I am and what I do. It's repetitive and absolutely necessary as it's relatively rare for anyone to "get me" or "me them". That mental association. The spark that leads to chemistry is elusive and there's no fixed formula to figure that one out.
Until I've found one that has potential for an actual mental connection with me, then I stop looking and concentrate on building an honest and open relationship.
Once I have an emotional and mental basis for an ongoing relationship, I'm able to feel a more physical attraction.
It's called being demisexual
No physical attraction is actually possible for me without a strong emotional bond
In other words, it's physiologically impossible for me to be a "player"
I'm not built that way, and it has no attraction for me.. like zero
As a Dominant I can't do anything without having built trust with my partner, it's not possible to do what I do without it. And trust is earned, both ways, as is respect.. and the process is continual.
One breach of trust can destroy a relationship completely and irrevocably.
I've never breached that trust, not once in my life, and never will.
