'50 Shades of Grey' is a really crappy misrepresentation of the lifestyle as Christian Grey ignores just about every precept we live and play by. Consent is ignored, as are safewords and hosts of other issues real life Dominants have with this flawed portrayal of the BDSM Lifestyle
SSC and RACK safe sane consensual risk aware consensual kink
Guiding all of this is informed consent in all play activities, where all parties understand what is going to happen in the play and the risks associated with that play including how to monitor to avoid injuries during that play
We play rough, pain and pleasure are intermixed deftly to allow the submissive senses to be overwhelmed with a tremendous endorphin release resulting in a state of euphoria known as subspace.
This is most definitely not the only way to bring a submissive to subspace, a skilled Dominant can do this by any number of ways, only limited by their creative (and usually very perverse) minds (bowing to those who do in recognition)
It's extremely addictive and quite pleasurable. There are side effects, which an experienced Dominant will watch for and alleviate as much as possible. Sometimes it's unavoidable. Some submissive's react strongly the the rapid release and dissipation of endorphins and have what is commonly known as 'subdrop' or in severe cases 'subcrash' it's not a simple as I've outlined but that's the gist of it.
Some other risks are nerve damage due to unintended compression of nerve bundles from improperly placed restraints or shifting of restraints during play. Experienced Doms/Dominants will instruct the submissive on how to check for this and to advise them immediately as the effects can be long lasting or in worst case, permanent.
Whips, floggers, chains, ropes, leather,(very brief and only partial list here) all have their attendant risks which need to be understood by all parties and agreed to (concensual), before play/scene activities start.
These practices are notably absent from the films.
Besides, Christian Grey (spoiler alert) at the end decides his proclivity for BDSM is a mental illness.
The American Psychiatric Association says otherwise.
This was the case until 2010, when the American Psychiatric Association announced that it would be changing the diagnostic codes for BDSM, fetishism, and transvestic fetishism (a variant of cross-dressing) in the next edition of its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), published in 2013. The new definitions marked a distinction between behavior—for example, playing rough—and actual pathology. Consenting adults were no longer deemed mentally ill for choosing sexual behavior outside the mainstream.
The change was the result of a massive effort from the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), an advocacy group founded in 1997 “to advance the rights of and advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities.” At the time, these types of sexual behavior, by virtue of their inclusion in the DSM, were considered markers of mental illness—and, as a result, were heavily stigmatized, often with legal repercussions.
I've put this here mainly because I thought for the longest time I was a monster for having the sexual urges I have. 50 Shades actually pissed me off for being such a shallow exploitation of what I live every day.
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