Having been raised into monogamy but then living in alternative lifestyle of wife swapping and sexual promiscuity then going back into the straight world into serial monogamy of sorts then nearly getting married again ( 3rd time) now breaking up successfully amicably but with the aid of considerable amount of female platonic friendship and fl tomfoolery feel like I’m getting somewhere.
Achieving this has required a decade of little to no sex proving to myself that if you don’t use it you lose it is true.
But when you’ve been F-D’d over and literally financially emotionally and psychologically because you foolishly loved with trusting abandon you can’t even look at women let alone ever want to stick your penis anywhere into anything that remotely looks like a female vagina.
Over time that changes and being with that someone special looks like worth another try.
I know guys who’ve had three on the go on the quiet but the amount of lies to achieve that successfully would sink a battleship and yeah jail time was done by one of them for coming onto a cops son. But I can relate to having a few on the go because sometimes dealing with the emotional manipulation of some females is soul destroying and the only remedy is another woman. Then you can look like a man because the one screwing you over mentally will fail to break you if you have another to run to. So you get your strength and guts back and go back to the one doing your head in but you still want her anyway. So you become the famous cheater who women hate.
I am not condoning being a cheater but I am agreeing having an escape route sure helps. So nothing wrong with fantasy and games to help you through those tricky messy emotional upheavals women are so good at putting you through. A fling here and there doesn’t hurt either.
Of course most of the sexual mess ups these days are because women have been brainwashed they are dirty if they do it with abandon. So when you go and marry them thinking your gonna get sex on tap to your horror the reverse is actually in reality what happens. In the old days this was not the case. The female needed her man so desperately she knew the way to keep him was play his dick often and a lot. When you were married that meant screwing as often and as much as possible. These days they don’t need to so they don’t and they mistakenly think they are virtuous and good and clean and that couple across
