Music and musings: Patience

"Said, woman, take it slow
It'll work itself out fine
All we need is just a little patience
Said, sugar, make it slow
And we come together fine
All we need is just a little patience
(Patience)"

Many people dislike Mondays because it jolts us back to the harsh realities of adulting. I mean we all could use an extra day in the week just to catch up on our favorite Netflix shows right? Why do we only have 24 hours in a day? Maybe if we have longer hours, I wouldn't need to set my alarm early only to hit the snooze button for ten minutes. Good thing we have Guns and Roses to remind us to take things in stride, tongue in cheek.

I always say patience is a talent because it was not a virtue I was born with. It took me a lifetime to learn and to be brutally frank, I'm still in the process of fucking learning all about it. As I evolve into a pseudo mature human being, I have come to appreciate and value this rare trait. Most of my inner coffee conversations with myself involves adamant reminders that if I don't practice this, I'd end up killing someone and yellow doesn't suit my morena complexion.

Most of the time, we find ourselves complaining about random things. Let me focus on some of the common questions that we dissect during single girl's night outs. Why can't I find a decent person to talk to? Why do I always end up with the wrong person? Why is he/she not texting me back? How would I know if the guy I like, likes me back? When is it proper to sleep with someone I'm seeing? When my girlfriends turn to me faces full of expectations for some nuggets of Lianneisms, I just good naturedly answer them with a simple "Chill ladies. Let's not over think. You'll know when you know. For now, enjoy life." I mean, they moan and groan but they haven't strangled me to death yet so I suppose my advice is sound enough.

If there's one thing I learned from my year long dating/sex hiatus, being patient is not the easiest task. It's the hardest thing to endure and conquer. But in order for one to appreciate the moments that matter the most, it's imperative for you to be comfortable in your own solitude and independence. I have waited for so long to find someone that makes my soul smile. I can live with a few hours of passive communication knowing that he's simply THERE. I can go hours, days, living in the memory of the amazing times we shared without going bat shit crazy not hearing from him. Because with patience comes respect. Respect that he too, has a life he built long before I came. And with respect comes appreciation. That all the mundane things he shares with me about his day are those that he wants me to know so I would feel included somehow. And vice versa. Because all great things take time. And that alone makes the wait worth it.

Here's to another week filled with adventures and fun discoveries. May y'all stumble into something new to wonder about. And when you do, just love 💕

"Cause the lights are shining bright
You and I've got what it takes
To make it, we won't fake it,
I'll never break it"

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