Deconstructing the Myths of the Swinging Lifestyle

Myth 1: All swingers are ugly overweight people!
Truth: Swingers come from all walks of life with all shapes and sizes. You will find that swingers are a true cross-section of society, both young and old, fat and thin, average, rich and poor, high class and redneck.
Myth 2: There is a higher risk of STDs among swingers than among the rest of society.
Truth: Swingers do not engage in any more of a risky behavior than singles who choose to have sex. The risk of STDs among swingers is the same as in general population and typically swingers take more precautions in using protection and choosing their partners well than the average single person.

Myth 3: Swinging is Cheating
Truth: Cheating is when you lie or hide something from your partner. Swinging is neither of those. When you swing, everything is out on the table and both partners have given permission for any activities that occur to take place.

Myth 4: People who swing have bad marriages
Truth: Swinging is not for everyone, it requires a strong committed relationship. While some couples do go to swinging as a last ditch effort to "save a marriage" it is just that a last ditch effort that in most cases will not work. Successful swinging couples have very strong relationships with good communication and strong honesty.

Myth 5: Swingers will have sex with anyone
Truth: Just because a person chooses to swing does not mean they will have sex with anyone. The typical swinger chooses their partners more discriminately than most singles do. Just like anyone else, a swinger has to be attracted to and turned on by their partner.

Myth 6: Swinging is always the husband's idea.
Truth: Swinging is brought up just as often by the female in a relationship. Regardless of who brings up the idea it is true that women rule the swinging world and have the final say as to what happens during a swinging encounter.

Myth 7: Threesomes aren't considered swinging
Truth: Threesomes is a type of swinging, and one that many couples prefer. Swinging does not always mean swapping partners.

Myth 8: Swinging is only for couples
Truth: Couples as well as singles swing. While many swinging couples choose to only swing with other couples, many couples prefer singles.

Myth 9: Swingers don't believe in God.
Truth: Many swingers are quite religious. Christians who swing consider themselves Liberated Christians and there are many groups of LC's throughout the country that meet together for Bible studies.

Myth 10: All swingers do drugs
Truth: While some swingers do drugs, once again swingers are just like anyone else in society, some people do drugs and some don't.

Myth 11: Swingers are bad parents
Truth: Once again swingers are just like everyone else. There are bad parents just as well as good parents. Swingers in general, do not let their children know about their lifestyle choice or in any way behave differently than any other parents around their children.

Myth 12: All females who swing are bisexual
Truth: While it does seem that female bisexuality is almost expected within the lifestyle there are many women who swing that are completely straight and have no interest in being with other women.

Myth 13: All swinger wives are just sluts
Truth: Just because a swinger wife chooses to have sex with people other than her husband does not mean she is a slut. She still chooses her partners wisely and does not have sex indiscriminately.

Myth 14: People swing because they aren't happy with their sex life at home.
Truth: Most swingers have great sex lives and choose to swing because it is the only way to live out certain fantasies that they share.

Myth 15: Swingers Are Open-Minded
Truth: Just like any other people, swingers are open-minded only to the things they are open-minded to, but everyone has their limits. Being a swinger does not mean that you are open to anything.


Myth 16: Swinging will help a weak/damaged relationship
Truth: Swinging amplifies a marriage, so it is more likely that if you add swinging to a weak or damaged marriage it will magnify the existing issues rather than repair them.


Myth 17: Swinging will keep a potential cheater from cheating
Truth: Cheating is typically a symptom of much larger issues within a person or a relationship. While some people try to use swinging as a way to making cheating ok, in the end if a person is going to cheat they are going to cheat whether they have been given permission to have sex with others or not.

Myth 18: Swingers try to convert everyone else to their lifestyle
Truth: Swingers are not evangelists. In fact, most swingers prefer to keep their lifestyle to themselves and will only share it with their closest friends (if then) or others that they already know are swingers as well.

Myth 19: Swingers Don't Love their spouses
Truth: Swinging requires the greatest of love to be willing to grant your partners deepest fantasies and desires and to share them without jealousy.

Myth 20: Swingers don't take time to get to know their partners beyond "Hello".
Truth: Ok, sometimes this is true, but most swingers actually like to really get to know their playmates before having sex with them. Having sex to swinging couples is much like it was to them when they were single. Sometimes they make friends first, sometimes they have sex on the first date and sometimes they may not even know the other person's name.

Myth 21: All swingers live in mobile homes
Truth: Over 90% of the swingers we have surveyed live in actual houses.

Myth 22: You can identify a swinger by......
Truth: There is no way to identify a swinger just by looking at them. There are several myths regarding ankle bracelets, thumb rings and even white rocks in their yard that supposedly identify someone as a swinger. If any of them are/were true then there are a whole lot of people who are unknowingly telling the world they are swingers.

Myth 23: Swinging will improve your sex life as a couple
Truth: Swinging in and of itself will not likely improve your sex life. It might seem to initially as you are on somewhat of a high following your first swinging encounter, but the reality is that if you don't have a good solid relationship and communication base, in the long run swinging will not change anything about your sex life. Swinging should not be taken up as a means to improve your sex life. If one partner is not interested in sex, most likely there is some other underlying cause that needs to be addressed, and it can't be addressed without strong communication.

Myth 23: Swingers are ALWAYS in the mood for sex
Truth: Not true. Swingers are just like everyone else, sometimes they have a headache. Just like anyone else they may not be in the mood for sex for a variety of reasons.

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