.... so my blog... will not be full of woe, it will be a view of the lifestyle as I see it, from the point of view of a single man, but I may allude to what it's like for all of us singles.
I am a slim gentleman, based in delightful Devon but travelling around the south west. I have been enjoying this lifestyle since I became single , 9 years ago now. In the main I have had some wonderful times and this blog may bandy around some of my opinions on the subject; please feel free to comment.
...... no really, it isn't all that bad. In the main we are a lucky bunch of people, sailing on the good ship single, although our direction may be aimless. ......
My first observation is with the couple dynamic; now many couples are looking for single females, and many may become a little disheartened to find that so are all the other couples, your fantasy is not unique, it is shared, what will differ is the motivation behind it...
You see and I hope I don't upset anyone here, but you may need to adjust. Many singles feel like they are being "used" to fulfil a fantasy, "your" fantasy... and this is not a good thing. When writing a message or a profile, try to consider, that you are not two and one (or two and two), but that you are three. That singleton you meet will have fantasies too, just battering on about what YOU want, will present a negative image and turn people away.
One of the things singles do to get things right and to make sure a play meet goes swimmingly, is to judge the dynamic, understand the couple, and ensure that no one feels like a spare part or a toy (unless of course they want to be a toy). So as nervous or lustful as you may be, remember, you are a couple, you have each other for support and affirmation, singles have to be a bit more resilient and therefore you may need to adjust how you approach them.
Now as a single guy, I don't have this much of a problem, in the main there are too many of us and too few of the people we would like to meet. Single guy may get frustrated and then bad behaviour steps in. Impatience, melancholy and a other negative emotions kick in, this presents a negative image, not a good thing when everyone (according to the profiles I read) are looking for "fun"...
So my first words, and what I am trying to say is this; you have all made a big decision to be here, post some pics and write a bit about what it is you are looking for and what you are like. That was the easy bit, now you are going to need the patience and diligence to see things from a different perspective and hopefully create those sordid, sensual and sex filled times you are looking for..... Good Luck!
Paul x
