We’re constantly making adjustments in life.
A big reason you struggle to connect with men is because you’re so bright.I hear ya.Like many of you, I’m a bit of an intellectual snob. I read voraciously. I like to discuss weighty issues. I know a little bit about a lot and can pretty much hold my own in any cocktail party conversation.You want to know something else about me?I’m difficult.I’m moody.I’m opinionated as hell.I’m a workaholic. Now before you decide that you hate me, I’d like you to consider two things:First, does that description remind you of any of the men you’ve dated in the past?If so, it shouldn’t be much of a surprise.That’s the thing about really smart guys. They live in their heads. They know what they’re worth. They have enough information and ammunition to be impossible to argue with. They can be endlessly fascinating and even more frustrating.You’ve seen this yourself MANY times.And yet you still say you want a man who is smarter than you are.Hmmm…Sounds like a pretty exhausting relationship, doesn’t it?Sounds like the price you pay for dating a great conversationalist is pretty steep, huh?On one side, you get a brilliant, stimulating mind, which really turns you on…On the other you get a narcissistic, difficult, self-obsessed, coldly logical man who is much more concerned with ideas than feelings, and much more concerned with himself than with you.Once again… Hmmm…Before I forget, there was one other thing I wanted you to consider:You will STILL be attracted to geniuses, but you now know that they do not make for a good fit in your life. Never have. Never will.Very smart. Know-it-all. Difficult. Moody. Short-tempered. Opinionated. Workaholic. Egomaniac. Judgmental. Always want things your way.Does that describe anybody else besides those brilliant men you’re drawn to?It certainly describes my clients. And I wouldn’t be all that shocked if it somewhat described you as well.And when two people who are that smart, that opinionated, and that strong-willed get together, it should obvious that sparks will fly – and tensions will mount.So while I’m not judging you for being just like I am – I AM pointing out to you that if you insist that you can ONLY be attracted to men who are smarter than you, you are relegating yourself to less than 2% of the population (before we consider things like looks, height, money, religion, humor, charm, attraction, values, etc.)Moreover, you’re relegating yourself to a man who is NOT A GOOD FIT FOR YOU.And therefore, it doesn’t matter if you’re attracted to only smarter men.The key to your future successful relationships is going to come in opening up to smart guys without all the baggage that comes from being brilliant and driven.
