Why won't couples send face photos?

We all know that there is a fear involved in the swinging scene- if you are concerned others may discover your lifestyle.
But at some point there surely must be some trust if you are contacting others?
Perhaps you are happy with travelling to meet another couple without knowing what they look like, (maybe that's part of the excitement?).
Maybe looks are not important to you and it's the touch or experience you are into?
But if you are not that couple, and attraction plays a part in meeting, you'll want to see face photos.
In our case, not sending face photos is a deal breaker.
No amount of describing yourself will actually convey that smile, sparkle, or sexual chemistry that comes from seeing a good face photo.
It actually doesn't matter if you yourself are not conventionally attractive either, as 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'.
Those considered attractive to others are just plainly unattractive to others.
It's the colours of the world that make this scene more enticing!
Otherwise we'd all stick to our own partners, wouldn't we?

So, how do you get over the hurdle of swapping face photos?
If you as a couple have done everything you can to show you are genuine and discreet (and even that has to be based on trust),it proves difficult.
You can be like us, and send first to show you're not being hypocritical.
You can ask them to send first as, after all, they contacted you first!
You can offer to webchat? In that way, there is less likelihood your image can be snapped (though still not impossible)
We've had ALL the excuses imaginable...
-We don't have any on our computer (really?)
-We are photo shy (and yet you swing?)
-We don't feel we should be judged (so attraction means nothing to you? Come on!?)
-We'll send them after you do 
Maybe we've missed the point of swinging. Though it seems to us that the couples who say attraction isn't important are normally those that aren't normally considered conventionally attractive in the first place!
We know this blog might offend some and so we apologise beforehand, but we do feel it needs to be talked about.
The amount of times we've been asked to meet to 'see if we click', without seeing the other couple determines that for us!
Yes, we do understand there's a modicum of excitement from meeting a couple when  we've no idea what they look like.
But the tohught that they are at the venue staring at us, then maybe going home, (or worse still, they aren't who they say they are) is off putting.
Sure, this can happen anyway, but we did start the blog by saying there has to be some trust from the off?
What do you guys think?
Are you offended when someone judges you as unattractive to them?
Is this one of the reasons that you don't send the pics in the first place?
If so, would meeting them change their mind?

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