Recently we were out on a date with a couple when this another couple with whom we have been in touch called me. They also wanted to meet. But it was already late and we didnt have time. We offered to meet on some other date, but they ‘insisted’.
So wifey and I took a detour on our way back home. We reached the meeting spot but they weren’t there. After waiting for around fifteen minutes we called them, and learned that it will take them fifteen more minutes to come. We again offered to postpone, but they were “already out… stuck in the traffic… and too busy to form a new plan”.
15 more minutes later, the couple told us where they had reached and there was no way they could have reached us in another ten minutes judging by their location. They insisted that we wait for some more, but that was it. Wifey and I got into our car and simply drove away. We both were upset, but wifey was angry. Her mood (from the wonderful date) had ruined and now were were stuck in the office hours traffic.
Of course nobody lost a limb in this incident but it did made us realise how frustrated it becomes when somebody tries to push you into something that ****o. My wife and I are very clear about one rule, “NO MEANS NO.” It means whether it is about having intercourse, going out, or even ordering a drink; when somebody sincerely says No, its time to back off and give that person their well deserved space.
But a lot of people are stranger to this concept and unconsciously end up pushing people. And then they wonder why their messages and calls are being ignored.
It also holds true for people who come on too strong. We met this couple where the guy seemed interesting and fun, but the lady was almost dormant. She won’t speak, or talk barely participating in the conversation. When all four of us talked, it was actually just the three of us conversing. And when I raised this concern with the husband, he told me that I should “.. stop firing from (my wife’s) shoulder”. Though it was my wife’s concern that the other lady was not talking or participating. Though we were still planning to meet them in person and know them better, the guy’s reaction made it clear that it was time to put an end to this.
And that is how many couples or singles that you thought had potential sometimes bite the dust.
Hence, its our duty to sometimes just stop and think for ourselves, “Am I being pushy? Is the other person comfortable?”
So tell me, do you ask this question to yourself?
And please share if you had such an experience.
Thanks for reading.
