I've had sex with different girls but I can say that some of them wants either be rough to the point you'll slap them or be passionate with long foreplays and unending kisses.
Both would do fine but it's really unusual for you to hurt your partner. They may feel satisfaction but the fact that you're hurting someone doesn't feel right knowing that you don't want to be hurt as well. I may have seen worst BDSM stuffs before like inserting needles on people's genital parts which is waaaay more different from just tying them with a rope or placing a gag ball on their mouths.Being passionate can be tricky especially if you're developing feelings towards your partner. It would do good if you're in a relationship but what if you're not? These feelings will eat you whole and you won't even have the chance to make it real unless of course you both feel the same.
Nevertheless, we just need to respect their fetishes
