The lifestyle give couples a way of keeping their marriage/relationship fresh and exciting. When a relationship is strong and both parties are on the same page, the lifestyle can be a wonderful s*xual experience for all parties involved.
Couples that are new to the lifestyle may experience unusual feelings resulting from seeing their partner/spouse with someone else for the first few times. Note that this is normal for many couples -- even for some with rock-solid relationships. Getting through this stage requires constant, open and honest communication. Suppressing feelings and not being earnest with your partner/spouse is how people get in trouble.
Here are 7 tips to consider that can help make for a smoother transition into the lifestyle. It's a good reminder for the experienced as well:
Communication is Key: We cannot stress this enough -- good communication skills are a must between couples. Both partners must be able to clearly convey their wants, needs and desires as it relates to swinging.
Setting Boundaries: There is no "one way" to be in the lifestyle: full/soft swap, parallel play, voyeurism, whatever goes...just make sure to make the rules and set boundaries for your "lifestyle." This helps eliminate problems that might arise between new couples.
Be Polite: How you handle situations is key to enjoying and maintaining the swinging lifestyle. There may be occasions where you meet up with another couple, and for whatever reason, the chemistry just isn’t there. It's important to exit the situation gracefully without offending the other group. Burning bridges can also limit future opportunities.
Avoid Jealousy and Love: Two words that will wreak havoc in your relationship are “Jealousy & Love.” These are two emotions that you definitely want to avoid. Falling in love with someone other than your significant other or becoming jealous of the relationship your partner has created with someone else can be hazardous to your success in the lifestyle and with your partner.
Discuss Your Experiences: Partners should share positive and negative experiences as well as things you might want to try in the future. Experimentation is fun because it can enhance pleasurable experiences between both of you and others.
Know Your Partner: Keep an eye on your partner for cues that he/she is uncomfortable with a situation. Remember, you guys are in this together to explore and enjoy.
Take It Slow: If you are new to the lifestyle, take it slow and just go with the flow. No need to rush; just abide by the rules you have set for each other, relax and enjoy.
Keeping 2-way communication is how most lifestyle couples become successful. The lifestyle is not for everybody, but for some it really works.
