The first step of Orgasmic Meditation is to couple up with a guy you trust," and build a nest.
Here's one possible setup:
- 1 blanket
- 3 pillows for her head and knees
- 1 cushion for the stroker
- 1 hand towel
- timer
- lubricant
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Now, it's time to get into position.
First the woman removes her bottoms, lies on her back and butterflies her legs. Then, the man "sits down on her right side. He takes his left leg, he wraps it over her belly, and his right leg goes underneath her legs,. Note that the stroker remains fully clothed.
Once you're in position, set a timer and apply nickel-sized amount of lube to the hand.
The stroker places their palm below the strokee's bottom to ground her. The thumb should placed on the introitus, or the opening to the vagina.
Now it's time to begin. Start by stroking slowly up.
Develop an up-down rhythm. The stroker should apply as much pressure as they would when touching their own eyelid or brow.
while the stroker’s gaze is focused on her clitoris, or at least the general area. After that is the ‘noticing’ phase, in which the stroker is supposed to narrate what’s being seen, using ‘non-value’ terms, as though a woman can listen to her vagina being described aloud without feeling judged. Then the stroker gets into position, placing his right thumb at the edge of her introitus (the opening of her vagina) and the tip of his left index finger on her clit at the 8 o’clock spot. The subject is encouraged to give ‘adjustments,’ detailing if she wants the stroker to move a little to the left or to apply less pressure. Don’t apologize, just ask, after which the stroker is supposed to say ‘Thank you.’ At minute 13, start winding down, so as not to be left loopy for the rest of the day.
