Just understanding these pointers will ensure that you don’t make any
mistakes that could cost you a perfectl****ppy relationship with your
partner!
Just understanding these pointers will ensure that you don’t make any
mistakes that could cost you a perfectl****ppy relationship with your
partner!
#1 Don’t pick a friend. Avoid bringing a good friend to bed.
The best person to have a threesome with is someone you know well, but
preferably someone from another area code, or on a vacation spot.
#2 Romantic feelings. Neither partner should have any romantic
feelings for the third person involved. It’s just sex. If you really
want only a particular person in bed, you probabl****ve some kind of
feelings**** you know well. Avoid involving anyone you know well
or have to meet regularly. It’ll just make things awkward if the
threesome doesn’t go your way. And additionally, it’ll always make one
of the partners feel insecure.
#4 Calm down. Drink a glass of alcohol to get rid of the nervousness.
#5 Build the intimacy. When three of you get together, don’t
dive into bed immediately. Spend a while sitting together or having a
few drinks. Build the intimacy so the threesome doesn’t end up feeling
like an awkward experience with a random stranger.
#6 Use protection. You can’t ever be too careful about STDs.
Always use just one hand to stimulate each partner and avoid
interchanging hands. Keep a lot of condo****earby, and switch condoms
each time there’s a new penetration. Dental dams are a good idea too.
#7 No one’s left out. It’s very important that you focus on
your partner because they should never feel left out. It’s possible that
you could forget your partner or get distracted by the arrival of a new
person in bed. [
#8 Keep yourself involved. Run your hands over the other two
people in bed even if you’re not directly involved or on top of someone
else. Don’t kill the mood by appearing bored or sitting back in the
corner because the other two are having sex or on top of each other.
#9 When one partner leaves the room. Stop whatever you’re
doing when one partner leaves the room for any reason at all. Don’t get
intimate with the third person, not even a kiss, if one partner leaves
to use the toilet. It’s the safest way to avoid creating insecurities,
especially behind your partner’s back.
#**** Penetration. Penetration is always a tricky subject. Speak
about it with each other beforehand. But if you’re still unsure, avoid
penetration unless you know your partner’s completely fine with the
idea.
#11 Don’t leave love bites. Leaving hickies on the third
person will piss your partner off. And if you get a love bite from the
third person, that’ll irritate your partner too. So just to be safe,
avoid any kind of passionate marks of love while having a threesome!
#**** Don’t be selfish. Threesomes are more about giving and
satisfying the other two people than satisfying yourself. If you want it
to go successfully, focus more on the others than on your own needs.
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#13 Permission. If you’re not sure something you do would
upset your partner, don’t do it. You can always look towards your
partner for acknowledgement. Asking for permission from your partner for
every single thing you do can kill the mood at times. Set clear
boundaries initially with your own partner, and don’t forget them in the
heat of the moment.
#14 The third person. Giving too much attention to the third
person may make your lover feel ignored. It may seem selfish, but if you
care about your partner and your own relationship, always make sure you
give more attention to your own lover. The best way to make the third
person feel more involved is by focusing on that person along with your
own partner. No one feels left out, and yet, no one feels insecure this
way.
#15 Staying in touch. It’s always better if the third person
you bring into bed has limited contact with the partner of the opposite
sex. If you’re the guy in the relationship, don’t get too friendly with
the girl your girlfriend brings to bed, and vice versa. It’ll help your
partner feel more secure, and it’ll also avoid any extramarital affairs
in the long run.
#16 Orgasms. All three of you have to orgasm together, or in
quick succession. Once the sexual high starts declining after a few
orgasms, the person who’s just had their share of orgasms could get
bored quickly and may be less inclined to stay involved with the other
two.
#17 The final orgasm. This may not seem like a big deal right
now, but it could definitely turn into a big red flag. If you’re the
guy, make sure you finish up the threesome only while penetrating your
own lover, and not the third person. And if you’re the girl and you’ve
involved another guy, make sure you end the threesome b****ving sex with
your own lover, and not the other guy. [Read:
#18 The third person shouldn’t sleep over, unless the three of
you share a good bond already and don’t feel threatened romantically.
The third person’s role here is to always ensure that they never come
across as a threat to the couple’s relationship.
#19 The next morning. Yes, the three of you have had sex with
each other the whole night. But if you’ve involved someone of the
opposite sex in bed the earlier night, keep some distance from them
after the threesome is over. Don’t cuddle up more with the third person
or spend more time talking to them.
Let your partner know that nothing’s changed and you still want and
desire your partner more than any other person. Just because you’ve had
sex with a third person doesn’t give you any reason to ignore your
sleeping partner and cuddle up with the third person or pillow talk with
them!
#**** Nothing is ever too trivial to talk about. This
is seriously the simplest, but also the biggest rule to remember. Making
too many rules can kill the mood, but talking about each others
feelings and doubts won’t. Speak with each other, and if even the
smallest thought nags your mind, discuss about it with your partner.
Remember, nothing is ever trivial here. And when you finally do decide
to take the plunge, make sure you really are ready for it
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