Sounds kind of low-key but wanting a quality companion is another thing. Having a good ol' chat before the 'deed' feels better than pure lust. Knowing what he/she likes means you can explore them deeper. A smile during conversation is like them bitting their lip during sex. Them having a good laugh is like moaning in pleasure during sex. Establish connection then fly high with your sexy time. With that said, who wants to grab a cup of coffee with me? ; ) haha