Her rear guard is on full alert mainly because she sees a distinct lack of glamour in the act. “Most men follow the porn world’s depiction,” says Paget, but you’ll never get any if you make it about dominance. Before you go near the rear, find out whether she’s interested by playing a game of sex roulette: write down fantasies on scraps of paper, then draw them in turn and rank them. When anal is drawn, pitch it as something new to add to the repertoire, says Paget. “It’s not ‘I want all of you’.” She has to trust you implicitly so to get her on board use your fingers or well-lubed sex toys for as long as she needs to feel comfortable taking it further
