Over the last few days, I have been thinking - just how far would someone go for sex? My thoughts are prompted by recent invitations - one to Edinburgh, one to Devon and the other to Yorkshire. Well as I live in London, that would be quite the road trip!
If I was going anywhere near Edinburgh or Devon, I would probably want to meet up with the men for a coffee at least. Unfortunately, I find the medium of the written word, no matter how attractive the phrasing or the flow of compliments (to which I freely admit to being entirely susceptible!), does not automatically mean I will be physically attracted to someone when I meet them so a road trip purely in the hope of sex is definitely out for me.
So I interested to hear from others of journeys they have made that have been prompted by sexual attraction. Details please if you're willing to share them! Also, did you find the trip worthwhile?
10:43 pm Saturday, 4th June, 2016
i totally 100% agree with this ladyx |
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4:32 am Sunday, 5th June, 2016
Turquiose: Nice to see you blogging. I totally agree about chatting. Some people are very articulated and amazing with words. However, it does not mean you feel the same when you actually meet them. Many things could put u off or just a handful of events together could make a day go wrong.
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11:01 am Sunday, 5th June, 2016
"no matter how attractive the phrasing or the flow of compliments (to which I freely admit to being entirely susceptible!), does not automatically mean I will be physically attracted to someone when I meet"
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5:31 pm Monday, 6th June, 2016
No more than half hour drive for me
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5:32 pm Monday, 6th June, 2016
But still not had then chance yet
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7:42 pm Monday, 6th June, 2016
I suppose if there's a attraction and same thoughts as to what you want you'd travel as far as |
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9:13 am Tuesday, 7th June, 2016
I live in Kent and had s regular FWB in Glasgow |
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6:16 pm Tuesday, 7th June, 2016
Great question Turquoise..
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4:42 am Wednesday, 8th June, 2016
Welcum: Nice to see you around again....Do I feel love in the air? I wonder if a lucky lady has managed to make u eat a whole cake? and now u r burning calories by dancing? :) |
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6:39 am Wednesday, 8th June, 2016
Free,
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1:26 pm Wednesday, 8th June, 2016
It is a hard one (no pun intended) I used to have a girlfriend who lived in LA and I visited her and she me and that was 5-6K miles but for an initial meet no more than about 30-40 miles |
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1:59 pm Wednesday, 8th June, 2016
As a rule of thumb, half an hour's travel is about right. Less and discretion can be an issue. I'm in north Oxfordshire so London is easy, as is Bristol, as I go to both a fair bit anyhow. Where to meet? I suggest the Burford Wild Life Park, if the woman prefers to travel. It's fun and if the chemistry is not right, still a happy hour or so. More likely is that it will heighten the urge for some animal fun! That said perhaps the hottest afternoon of nsa activity that I can recall started with a meet outside Tesco in Slough..... |
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2:19 am Thursday, 9th June, 2016
I will say half |
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2:37 pm Thursday, 9th June, 2016
The bottom line here is how forthcoming people are prepared to be about their physical appearance. Sexual attraction lies in whether people are matched in terms of character, attitude, humour, intelligence........and physical appeal. All but the latter can be revealed in stages through email and messaging. People can get on like a house on fire via the written word, but there is often reluctance on the part of either party to do "bare all" and swap unambiguous facebody photos. Maybe they simply want to prolong the thrill of fantasizing (?) The reality is that in most cases people could save a lot of time, unnecessary travel.....and potential angst.....by being totally honest. I make it a matter of principle to supply face and body pics at a very early stage, simply because I would rather elicit an immediate judgement (for better or worse) than persevere with a communication thread that might lead to a shipwreck further down the line. People generally have pretty specific tastes when it comes to physical appeal, and so I'm totally philosophical if - after I go to the trouble of revealing my physical self - the response is silence (and I'm sure we have all been there :-) By the same token I have sometimes been left seething after meeting someone who totally misrepresnted herself in photos, or who insisted on not supplying any, and I was fool enough to give her the benefit of the doubt. Sure, I would travel a very long way for someone who was worth it, and indeed I have done so several times in the past. But those people gave me ample reason to travel and I was not disappointed (and neither - I think - were they). I think you have to regard this as analogous to buying a house: You wouldn't invest in some scraps of semi-favorable info and a few fuzzy images - or none at all :-) |
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2:37 pm Thursday, 9th June, 2016
The bottom line here is how forthcoming people are prepared to be about their physical appearance. Sexual attraction lies in whether people are matched in terms of character, attitude, humour, intelligence........and physical appeal. All but the latter can be revealed in stages through email and messaging. People can get on like a house on fire via the written word, but there is often reluctance on the part of either party to do "bare all" and swap unambiguous facebody photos. Maybe they simply want to prolong the thrill of fantasizing (?) The reality is that in most cases people could save a lot of time, unnecessary travel.....and potential angst.....by being totally honest. I make it a matter of principle to supply face and body pics at a very early stage, simply because I would rather elicit an immediate judgement (for better or worse) than persevere with a communication thread that might lead to a shipwreck further down the line. People generally have pretty specific tastes when it comes to physical appeal, and so I'm totally philosophical if - after I go to the trouble of revealing my physical self - the response is silence (and I'm sure we have all been there :-) By the same token I have sometimes been left seething after meeting someone who totally misrepresnted herself in photos, or who insisted on not supplying any, and I was fool enough to give her the benefit of the doubt. Sure, I would travel a very long way for someone who was worth it, and indeed I have done so several times in the past. But those people gave me ample reason to travel and I was not disappointed (and neither - I think - were they). I think you have to regard this as analogous to buying a house: You wouldn't invest in some scraps of semi-favorable info and a few fuzzy images - or none at all :-) |
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8:46 am Friday, 10th June, 2016
If it's for a Tuesday night of hot nookie, I put a 300 mile limit on my travel (if the other party agrees to stay overnight & PHYSICALLY sleep with me!)! I'm off from work Monday (after 2:30pm) thru Wednesday.
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9:27 am Friday, 10th June, 2016
Travel isn't really an issue for me as I've always driven a lot of miles, but there are many true comments in answer to this great post and it isn't a bad idea to meet on neutral ground, somewhere mid-way. The furthest I have driven to meet is nearly 300 miles, and we didn't "click"; that was a bummer, but at least the lady wasn't inconvenienced. As I'm here to find friends or a fuck buddy, it wouldn't be practical for me to be meeting more than about 40 - 50 miles away on a regular basis. Great thread! |
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9:03 pm Friday, 10th June, 2016
likewise 40-50 miles but only if there was a definate attraction from both sides |
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12:11 am Sunday, 12th June, 2016
If someone will travel hundreds of miles specifically for a shag, one interpretation it is that heshe must be pretty desperate :-) |
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9:05 am Sunday, 12th June, 2016
Maybe he was a billionaire, a Christian Grey type and you've lost your chance of that lifestyle. Lol
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12:17 pm Sunday, 12th June, 2016
"a Christian Grey type "
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10:54 pm Tuesday, 14th June, 2016
travelling is no problem to us, we usually make the most of the time by seeing what's nearby and having a butchers, having said that we always talk on phone before arranging anything, those that don't want to are time wasters and you get a genuine feel if they are for you or not x
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3:37 pm Wednesday, 15th June, 2016
I guess each to their own in this case. I've travelled up to London before to meet someone, had a nice afternoon and evening out, stayed at her place and went home the next day. She decided that nothing physical would actually happened between us, but that was fine it was her call. To me it's always the lady's that decide if anything will happen. I have friends in various parts of the country, so if I was to travel further I'd probably use the trip to visit them as well or maybe take a few days and use it as a small break away. |
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3:40 pm Wednesday, 15th June, 2016
Another thing is, it seems there's not many that actually are online let alone meet in my area, so if the miracle was to happen , I'd hazard a guess I'd have to travel a bit anyway. |
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5:23 pm Wednesday, 15th June, 2016
How about getting a group of your friends together and come to Australia
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6:43 am Thursday, 16th June, 2016
Rungirl,
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9:29 am Thursday, 16th June, 2016
Gosh, you guys have been busy on here! I feel a bit bad that I put the question out there and haven't been back to check for responses until now. I honestly didn't expect many comments. Thanks everyone for all your thoughts. And thank you free for the welcome!
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9:31 am Thursday, 16th June, 2016
"By the Skebbie" - crikey, that's a heck of a phrase. I did actually mean to type "By the way Skebbie" but I quite like the way my error reads! Wonder if it'll catch on? |
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10:55 am Thursday, 16th June, 2016
Ms. T: My comment wasn't directed at you specifically - just a general bit of facetiousness. I suppose any decision about long-distance travel would centre on how firm a grasp one has on reality (your Yorks gent being a case in point). As I stated above, I *have* travelled long distance, but the decision was made after much mail correspondence and a mutual conviction that it would be worth it for both parties. However, even that assessment process has let me down a few times, and I have a couple of horrror stories, which have been a good lesson and made me more cautious. I'm probably less cautious about more local possibilities, so perhaps in my case laziness is probably getting the upper hand over desperation :-) |
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1:33 pm Thursday, 16th June, 2016
Rungirl, |
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10:30 pm Thursday, 16th June, 2016
Doris..
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7:06 am Friday, 17th June, 2016
Most cockneys can be a bit dodgy.. In an artful way of course..
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9:18 pm Thursday, 7th November, 2019
Anyway I’m in Kingston if you feel like a drink xx |