I have a question for you all

Actually it was a comment you made on your latest blog that got me thinking about this and inspired me to write it I initially joined the site about 10 years ago, have gone quiet a few times but keep coming back and over that time and my attitudes and desires have changed and will change again.

Sassy - when I first joined all I wanted was anything I could get now the most important thing is friendship.

Suechris - I do agree limiting ourselves to one thing can be short sighted but you can't have everything much as we may wish to.

I do know that I'm fickle and will chop and change on a daily basis but the one overriding thing is friends and I like to think that most of the ladies from my past are still friends.

MrB - there was a time I was just like you I always saw it as doing a service for the guys who like to watch their wives with other guys.

MissV - brains and a big dick I thought 1 precluded the other! :) but we all wqant to be loved even if we don't all admit it

not happy. such a common thing. just wanna get wet get fucked. thats allimg src="imagesadultemoticons001.gif"

Cumfunforu I do agree with you there are times I want it all and I think every bloke does however if you find someone to have great sex with, why, would you want to give that up just for a different face? I got past the notches on the bed post years ago when I was working in pubs and clubs and have since been looking for someone like minded who wants something more than a quick jump but less than marriage, and this is always what is in the back of my mind when messaging anyone, I would like to hope that a lot of others are the same.

hello how are you doing today care to chat now

Well, this took me a long time to reply. I think human nature dictates different goals and needs at different points in life. A year ago, I was just opening my mind to a new world. I was just so curious to discover, to ask, to see what everyone wanted here. As I have said many times during blogs, I am the same person but with a more open mind and respect for many people here.

Why Am I here? For now, I am happy to read the blogs and reflect on things. However, if someone came along and surprised me, I would not mind to have an amazing time together. NSA sounds perfect but to find someone sexy, sensual, bright and with an amazing sense of humour is not as easy as I thought it would be. I can just hope. Having said that, I have made and met wonderful people here img src="imagesadultemoticons001.gif" Therefore, it has been a year worth a century.

Horny - There is no point in going against what you feel is morally right, I think you would just feel violated.

FFP - I am beginning to womder if NSA actually exists, I think it is just an excuse for when you don't get on with someone, you don't have to talk to them again, for me most ladies I have met in that situatiion end up as friends that I keep in contact with.

Hi, I'd like to meet someone or several people for regular sex, not to say I'd turn down a one off, if it came with the idea of maybe having dinnerlunchday out then I think that would be ideal. There are two things to take into account, a one off can be exciting and fulfilling at the time, but often sex gets better between two people who have a connection, even if it's not a full blown relationship.

Medieval: I think the definition of NSA has also been discussed greatly on many blogs. I think we came to the conclusion (kind of) that NSA is what to people wanted it to be. Clear rules from the beginning and honesty being the major players.

It is not an easy level to achieve. I think in a way you need to become more easy going, relaxed, less jealous, less possessive, less selfish, maybe to see the world with different eyes in general.

I also keep in touch with many people I have met here. I think I would have not met them unless I thought they were people I wanted in my life not just for one night but for possible many in the future or just to make me smile :)

In the year I have been here my views and ideas of what I want have changed.
Initially I was after a bit of fun, someone to help put the spark back in my life..
I had no expectations on how long it may take, but I guessed longer than a year...
What I did discover was a community of wonderful people, some of which have become great friends and I could not be without.
I am not really actively seeking, just enjoying the banter of the blogs and chat...
On the odd occasion there may be someone that catches my eye but ultimately I am a man and all men are lazy...so I rely on my merits and wait for that special person to find me.
I feel there is a far better connection that way because that person was interested enough in me to make that first move.

Hahaha Open. I keep giving Welcum lots of chances and he keeps rejecting me due to his busy schedule. Give him a hard......
time please img src="imagesadultemoticons024.gif" I give you two :P

Cumfunforu As I say bedpost notches was something that I got past 30 years ago, who cares about the past.

freeforpleasure don't get me wrong I have in the past had and will in the future (i hope) have NSA encounters I have also had what was a great relationship that lasted a couple of years till 6,000 miles got in the way, come out of what started as a NSA encounter. However I will admit that at times I can become possessive but then we wouldn't be human without our little flaws

Free and myself are good friends,
I cannot go to China to see her, it's not possible.
So we agreed, when Free next is in Londinium, it's the Delunay for coffee and cake..
Great place on the corner of the Strand and Dury lane..
This is what i told Free...
Cos if one day you wake up and find your missing me,
And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I could be,
Thinking maybe you'll come back to the place that we'll stand,
And you'll see me waiting for you on the corner of the Strand..

Their apfel vanilla struselkuchen is the best this side of the Tirols.

Welcum: I will definitely be there for the coffee and I hope the dessert is as magnificent as you paint it. :P However, I am expecting also a little dance under the moon ;) OMG, singing in the rain comes to mind too img src="imagesadultemoticons001.gif"

Kipper and stitched up and royally comes to mind!!
I think there has been some underhand conspiring taking place??
Hey, but i don't mind..,its nice to be wanted
And whilst on the subject of conspiring, i may do a little stirring of my own...
A little birdy tells me she would love to go to Hawaii, she just needs that little bit more encouragement to bring it too fruition..

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Well, I'm looking for someone with a massive intellect, who can discourse on a wide range of topics. Philosophy, Art, Literature,Music,Existentialism etc. Failing that ,I'll settle for a pub-owning, nymphomaniac , millionairess ! LOL

Hahahaha Fetch, u ask for so little.....I am out I think :(

I agree that some people don't want anything mor than just sex, personally I would like to get to know someone first