Many couples struggling in swinger lifestyle encounter a problem when the factor of jealousy comes in. Mostly it is with the female half. She seems to be cooperating and accommodating when it comes to couples dates, movie night outs or long drives. But as soon as the things get intimate, she is more concerned about her husband in arms of the other wife than herself being in arms of the other husband.
Women are not wired to see their husbands making out with other women. They simply cannot reconcile this and therefore are incapacitated to work it out. There are many exceptions thought, but I am speaking on behalf of the majority here. My advice to the husbands of these wives is to consider MFM (male-female-male) threesomes. You can start with just a male as her single date, or phone friend. Let them develop a relation first. Stay completely out of their connection and avoid turning this into a trio. Once your wife has started enjoying this relationship, then make your next move.
The ultimate goal is to reach to a point where you wife is involved in MFM and absolutely loves it. This could be your gateway to full on couple swap in future.
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8:59 am Monday, 15th August, 2016
You have brought up an interesting topic. Jealousy is off course the first feeling one experiences in lifestyle. However in West, and I can only speak for US, the jealouse is experienced more by the male partner, husband or boyfriend during the early stages of entering into lifestyle. It's the opposite of what you have stated is experienced by folks over here. I am guessing that might be due to the fact that Pakistani women, in your own words, have inhibitions about being a wild crazy sex maniac. But I do agree that a MFM is another way to get rid of those insecurities and inhibitions. Your wife and partner will feel desired and wanted. However please do keep in mind that it's not easy for some husbands to handle MFMs especially if it's during your early stages of lifestyle. Even though the idea is very erotic for lot of men and women, but when it actually happens, lot of feelings come out. So if you decide to jump into it, than like I stated in response to your earlier blogs, that prior communication is the key. Especially if you do it the first time as an experience and understand that there is a possibility of it not going well, than you two will be ok. The key again is communication before and after every sexual escapade. This will help you develop a lot in lifestyle. As long as you look at lifestyle to enhance your own relationship you will be ok. As soon as you look at it as a way to be with somebody else just to escape your partner or meet your desires, it is a disaster waiting to happen.. |
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9:54 pm Monday, 26th December, 2016
very true...i endorse the point of view |
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12:08 pm Thursday, 29th December, 2016
Very nice 😃 |
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10:42 am Thursday, 12th January, 2017
the key is communication, i'd agree with the person who posted below.. and if completely open, stable and trust-based communication does not exist, it would be impossible to be in the lifestyle. |
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3:30 am Thursday, 19th January, 2017
good key |
