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How to find the right couple

9:05 pm Sunday, 16th May, 2010

After searching online sites for 2 weeks the results have been interesting.

Without paying for full membership I'm not sure I'm ever going to get my first bit of fanny.

I've been sat fantasising about having a threesome or swapping with a couple and have tried so hard to reply and search for people who are looking for the same.

Obviously everyone seems to go in very slowly into the swinging scene and there does seem to be a dirty stigma attached to chose people who want to swing. Most people see swinging as something for the eccentric couples and it's not seen as the norm.

It was be fascinating to see exactly how many couples have talked about having a threesome but have never gone through with it. Why is that? Why are people all talk and no fucking?

Many people see sex and relationships as one and the same thing. However it's sometimes important to separate the two. I love my partner and would never cheat on him yet I'm willing to let him fuck another woman as long as I could watch and join in.

After being in a long term relationship from quite a young age it seems unfair to limit your partner sexually. Sex can be very liberating for many people in different ways and people always say the more you have the better you get!

Everyone should enjoy sex and be passionate about something in life. Unfortunately in the 21st century sex still remains an un-talked about subject and very taboo. What happens behind closed doors often remains there.

So how can we actually find the right couple? Well so far it seems very unlikely that you'll find them online.

If you disagree with anything I have said then comment on my blog or drop me a line.



Comments
9:53 pm Sunday, 16th May, 2010

Interesting post!

Let me tell you my story. I've been married for well over 20 years and last year I allowed my wife to act out her fantasy with another man. We had talked about having 3somes for many years, and we agreed she would "get the first go". I guess maybe she thought if I got the first go, I would then go back on my side of the deal!

She met someone on the internet and introduced me via a webcam one evening. We had a few conversations, and even put on a couple of "shows". It was nice to get compliments and even some directions from someone else. The thought did cross my mind that maybe we should have charged for our "free show".

A few weeks later we met up with this guy. We exchanged a few pleasantries, then got down to the proper action.

To be honest, he was bigger than me, which I guess was a little intimidating, and he certainly knew how to make my wife moan. She rode him like I'd not seen myself for a long time, but she kept her eyes on me (well, most of the time). She was sucking furiously on my cock, and obviously enjoyed her first "spit roast"! Needless to say, the experience was too much for me, and I came far too quickly, but managed to recover and join in again, by which time, the other guy was giving her arse a good seeing to.

He finally came in her mouth about 90 minutes later. I came a second time, and that was pretty much that.

The weird thing for me was I found the whole thing a huge, huge turn-on. I treated my wife like a whore for a while after the event, and now I feel it's my turn!

The only problem is, there are many websites that offer so much, but deliver so little, unless of course you supply your credit card details.

To my old, sceptical mind, many of the girlscouples on the websites look unreal. By this I mean they have many "profiles" which somehow seem remarkably identical. In other words, I feel many are "randomly-generated" to fool people into paying for full membership only to end up having a relationship with a computer-generated robot!

I guess the genuine people out there enter into the idea of acting out their wildest fantasies, but then years of social conditioning kicks in and they suddenly go all shy and disappear!

I would say I'm no different. My wife and I would discuss our fantasies, but it took us a long time to begin the process for real. I have to say that ever since she acted out her fantasy, she's gone strangely quiet on me getting my side of the bargain, but she knows it's going to happen soon, one way or another!

Anyway, I thought I'd tell you my (limited) experience, as I found your comments interesting, and I'm amazed no-one had commented on it.

I hope you find what you're looking for, and you both enjoy it.

12:21 am Tuesday, 18th May, 2010

Hi,
Love your blog. You make very good sense in it. Too many people with hangups about sex, it is there to be enjoyed and explored. It should not be hidden away and be exclusive between each couple. That is what tempts us all to have affairs, whereas if we were open and relaxed about it we could join the many others who willingly want to have group sex.
Problem is meeting those genuine people? Many sites do have computer generated profiles to entice one to upgrade. I have found this site to be the most genuine and have had many replies and am in conversation with those about meeting.
I have had some encounters and a small group has been formed from those.
Do keep going here as it will pay off. You have to persevere and be willing to chat back and forth to meet the people you seek?
Again, your blog is a very good read, indeed and makes a lot of sense!
Laurence.

3:15 pm Tuesday, 18th May, 2010

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5:04 pm Wednesday, 19th May, 2010

we had our first meeting with another couple last year. We met them once to see if there was a connection and we had a great time. After a few weeks of flirty emails we arranged to meet up again to take it further. Again we had a great evening until we got back to the hotel. We arranged to meet in our room and we never saw them again. Turns out, they had a row and that was that. To say we a little disappointed in an understatement! The ironic thing is, they had experience and it was our first time. Good luck in finding the right couple for you. I hope it turns out more rewarding for you than it did us. We'll try again, but it's certainly made us cautious.

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