Where do you draw the line ???

No I wouldn't do it, as I wouldn't like it if someone done it to me. Anytime I speak to someone and they say they have a partner, I make sure the partner gives permission before we continue. It's morally wrong and I believe what goes around comes around.

Best of luck x

I'd steer clear as it'll cause aggro.

Its all about FUN !!!! However if you had a partner the whole time I would not , if you just became a partner I would have to ask partner if they mind !

You are right to set your rules and then to keep to them.

You are happy to see a single guy or a couple so if he has a girlfriend, he should either stay faithful to her and not see anyone on his own or discuss with her, how involved she wants them both to be and have a couple's profile that reflects that.

If he goes behind her back, when she finds out, you don't want to be involved in her anger.

I'm sure there are plenty more members that are more suitable for you both.

Garryandkerry... Let me first explain what I have learned from my years as a single in this lifestyle. All couples set boundaries and rules as to what they are comfortable with. Being such they have thought out as many scenarios that they may possibly arise and have ensured or secured their own comfort levels as a couple. I have know many couples that one or the other is allowed to play on their own and it is an open knowledge to who they also play with. These are their choices and can only be decided by them. Too often casual single males will join lifestyle site with the intention or thoughts of an easy lay. If it has been your rule to meet only single males and couples... If he is a part of a couple then ask him to have his partner accompany him on the meet. If he is not comfortable then you have not broken your rule by canceling any meet as he has deceived you with being single and trying to deceive his partner as well. I can assure that should anyone find out they were deceived there will be a lot of drama that you will not want party to. I have seen this all too often and it never ends well.

Thank you guys I think u r all right , stick to our rules .. Thanks for your incite xxx

Very risky, move on to another male is probably best

It's your gig....stick to what makes you comfy. Whilst great fun this mullarkey can be a little bit complicated emotionally especially at first.

My response is not aimed at this one specific rule you set and are now debating, but rather as an overall input on rules in general. I don't mean to say you should or shouldn't meet with an attached man, as only you can decide that.


I think rules are guidelines to start with, and arecan be flexible as things go along. Go with what works for you, if your ground rules at any time seem too lenient or stringent, you can change them at any time, for any reason. Just be sure they are what works for YOU, not because of what you think others will think.

Stick with your rules!

Did the guy say his GF knew? Because if so...seems like a different story than not knowing.