CHOOSING BETWEEN CHEMISTRY AND SKILLS

Did I accidentally tune in to Soulmatedatefinder.con by some horrible and ironic twist of, ya know, whatever?! 😜

Really Gascon? I did not think that wanted to find someone here I have chemistry with to have sex with meant I want him to be my soulmate. I was just wondering what is more important for people who come here. I don't think all would think the same. However, I think you are very fortunate you have found yours.

Just good hot dirty n hardcore nsa sex,is all you need,but if the chemistry's there,even better xxx

Chemistry in my experience, either exsists or does not.Whilst skill can and more often than not is, taught, learned and gained.? X

Cleo. In chemistry one often encounters a chain reaction. so if the experiment is successful and compatible fusion is achieved,the ensuing activity often follows very naturally.So don't worry your pretty head about it ! xxxxxxxxxx

We are indeed, most fortunate FfP, and I was deliberately misinterpreting for comic effect. For is it is a package deal. Without some form of chemistry it's just a physical act. And as they say, nothing so overrated as a bad f2(k; and nothing as underrated as a good crap!

Well said gas on x

Just adding a comment from another person here:
I have just been reading your blog, and you are so right, you can have great chemistry with someone and be rubbish in bed, and vice versa, it can work the other way too ! Great in bed and no chemistry. It is tough to find the happy medium. That balance of great sex, and fabulous chemistry, its a meeting of the minds, difficult to find though !

Likewise, you can get on famously on here, really get to know someone and chat for ages, then when you meet, there is zero connection ! It can and does happen, I have had it happen to me !

I am actually a bit of a hedonistic explorer, I love to push the boundaries of sexual pleasure, there is not much that i have not tried, but I have met very few people that are the same as me, and wish to push those boundaries ! If you find that mental connection, and then when you meet, the chemistry is there, then, that is the ideal scenario !

That's it sexy xxx

Personally I will always go for the connection and chemistry as if that is not present then doesnt matter how good the skills are it just isnt the same :-)

Interesting to think about what constitutes 'skills'. And to throw a curve ball into the debate, do men need more 'skills' than the ladies?

Really Psavour i tend to think that it's more to do with the interaction between the two people concerned rather than who is on top, no one would be able to react in as free and passionate a manner if the person 'on the botom' were to just lay there like a lump of wood or a sack of potatoes, it takes two to make an effort to achieve a wonderful mutually satisfying outcome.

FFP In my opinion there needs to be a certain mix of both chemistry and skill as with only one of the two elements i would imagine you might be left feeling less than happy with the outcome and maybe even a little cheated. Personally i'd hold out till i came across someone that happened to have both important factors.

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Gascon: Funny that you say that. I think the conception is that men should be the ones with the skills. I wonder why?

I personally wouldn't settle for anything less than both chemistry and skills. Yes men that possess both qualities may only come along once in a while but i'd rather wait, after all i'm a greedy woman so would never settle for half measures, as i would feel i'd been cheated if one of the aspects were to be lacking :-) x

As for men only possessing 'skills' ........Heck NO in my humble opinion i think you only get as much pleasure out of anything, if you put in as much effort as your partner.

Skills for one night! Chemistry for more than one night ! Xx

Well, I thank all the replies. I am in a journey here that not many people could understand and even I have not been able to fully define. In my heart, I know connection would be everything. I am just now closing my eyes and thinking very hard about that person and crossing my fingers...lol

Sure chemistry and skill are both important Free, but skill can be learned from a person who cares. Chemistry is a formula that is attraction of 2 people that create lust for each other. The main thing is you feel a lust each other on the moment. chemistry is a melting pot of emotion.

Great post Free. Chemistry all the way, it's a natural occurrence. When it comes to skills, you can always have fun being an educator.

So if you're a couple meeting a couple how important is chemistry to you?

With the right skills he can create the right environment and build up the excitement even if there was very little chemistry before going to the bedroom . A skillful partner knows the tricks of good foreplay , touching , licking , etc and can make you so excited and with so much anticipation that you will forget that there was not chemistry before :)

On the other hand good chemistry can be great for a hot quicky without much or any skills

To me both looks and personality are both surface content. They are important but neither is deeper than the other. The only thing that goes to depth is soul and spirit, and it's great when you meet someone who's self aware and takes good care of themselves on all levels. Truthfully when it comes to skills I've no great desire to meet a woman who's excellent in bed. My few most quality relationships started out with us both being just as terribly nervous as each other, unskilled and through practice grew into lloving one another like pornstars. Great chemistry or slow burning chemistry, it's most memorable when there's space left to learn from one another, for me.

its all in the mind...for me..Sure you have to be attractsd to someone physically at first but to be honest...if I know someone is comfortable sharing the deepest darkest corners of their deepest darkest fantasies and realeasing the frustration of not being able to trust anyone enough to share this part of themselves before......then I feel honoured and want them to enjoy that freedom of mind and explore even more....if they are being turned on then It would definitely turn me on and allow me to open my mind and talk openly about any taboo subjects and get my mind to a really dark place...which I love to do.......I once found a girl who could get on this level with me....but it was hard to have a relationship as the fantasies became darker and darker...mainly role ploy and dirty chat...she reached her mental limits and the guilty thoughts overlapped into her real life...we tried to involve other couples and single friends but the planning of such things took away the spontanuity and softened things up a bit...that was some time ago now....I closed my shell up for a few years....but now ive reached a time in my life where I understand myself more and others..........................I would love to taik with a female preferably married who wants to fantasise and let me know aout all her dirty little fantasies,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and icould share mine.......I just want release my self again and have my fantasy world back.........................so personality is definitely more important..someone who can turn your mind on....you can shut your eyes and be anywhere with anyone no matter who you are with...and its nice to tell them while you are f%^(king