This is officially my 5th month in the chatroom and I have gone through many phases already. My profile has changed at least 5 times and I have chatted with people from all over the world. I have made very good friends and it has been a great journey for my curious mind.
However, one of the questions that have popped into my mind recently has been: Married or not married? Does it matter? Why and why not?
I would like your thoughts on this. And do we have double standards according to the gender?
4:55 am Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
Dear Cleo, we have discussed this topic in the chat room and I don't think there's anything useful I can add. Married or single, do you think the promise of a new Ferrari has nay influence on a ladies thinking ? Ha Ha .Just kidding ! |
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10:35 am Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
I often wonder why a married man should be on a site like this unless as playing as a pair!! Equally some hide the fact they are married. I always tread carefully and prefer honesty in both men and women whether single or not. What is there to gain by being dishonest!!! After all we are all adults. Similarly men who pretend to be women!!!!! and married women pretending to be single or playing without partners knowledge!!!!! Please be real and open no one here will judge but we all need to know the truth. :)
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2:14 pm Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
This is officially my 5th month in the chatroom and I have gone through many phases already. My profile has changed at least 5 times and I have chatted with people from all over the world. I have made very good friends and it has been a great journey for my curious mind.
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2:14 pm Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
This is officially my 5th month in the chatroom and I have gone through many phases already. My profile has changed at least 5 times and I have chatted with people from all over the world. I have made very good friends and it has been a great journey for my curious mind.
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3:50 pm Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
Thanks for the replies. However, one question remains, do we want the panda to be married or not? lol |
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6:11 pm Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
Don't forget guys Mrs or Miss Panda is only interested in sex for half a day every year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!img src="imagesadultemoticons026.gif" |
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7:53 pm Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
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10:24 pm Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
Marriage is a piece of paper that u gotta pay for nt to mention how much the actual weeding is gonna cost ya.
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11:00 pm Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
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11:42 pm Tuesday, 24th March, 2015
From my perspective, I prefer a married, possibly you have far fewer problems because they both know what they are doing and practicing what hoppin like you, I do not want problemsimg src="imagesadultemoticons012.gif" |
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12:18 am Wednesday, 25th March, 2015
In my humble opinion it all comes down to honesty, which is sometimes seems to be a somewhat rare quality, i find it very refreshing that some are 100% honest at all times as that is how i am about my situation. Have to say If someone can't be honest than i don't want to know as i'd question what other secrets are they keeping. I will add that i don't judge others as that's there business, but the right to make an informed decision is my right so expect to be given that right at all times by being given the full facts :-) x |
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5:10 am Wednesday, 25th March, 2015
I have been reading with attention all your replies which I thank you took the time to write.
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7:59 am Wednesday, 25th March, 2015
Well said Sassy |
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10:45 am Wednesday, 25th March, 2015
Psavour: I am sure many people are reading your words and identifying with them. This site is a place for people to discover themselves in a way and what they want but also for other people to find understanding not matter their sexual preferences or personal situation.
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1:19 pm Wednesday, 25th March, 2015
All difficult questions to answer.. I am married and I am not hiding it. The last sexual relation that I had with my wife dates from more than two years ago and (for reasons that I'm not going to explain) the situation is not going to improve any time soon. Now then, shall I tell her that I am on this web site looking for alternatives? No way, it won't make anyone happier.
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6:06 am Thursday, 26th March, 2015
The way I look at people's relationship statuses, especially on a site like this, is probably akin to quantum maths. If you split up the two statuses "in a relationship" and "not in a relationship" into all possible permutations and situations, you get a myriad of miniscule human interactions, and so it becomes absurd to think that one can apply the same moral and social rules to all of them. The most basic and obvious example is trying to differentiate between "married" and "in a relationship". The only difference is that the former is a legal status officially entered in public records. Are two people more committed to each other as a result? Probably not. Then, of course, there are the various ways in which people "make relationships work", ranging from being exclusively joined at the hip to a completely open and free situation in which they are rarely under the same roof and perfectly willing to shag all and sundry in the meantime.
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11:45 am Thursday, 26th March, 2015
Skibbie, as always you have a way with words, Clear and sensible! Nice to see you back :) |
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6:44 pm Thursday, 26th March, 2015
Freefor. I personally think most people miss the point. Sex,be it casual. predetermined, sexual or just as it happens, is down to one simple thing. One element. Do you really fancy the look of the person in front of you ?
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6:50 am Friday, 27th March, 2015
I prefer married women less game playing and if man has partner too .both understand situate better. Single lady married man you always worry single girl be careless or spill the beans. ... Now "free for pleasure ' you married ? Where you from ? img src="imagesadultemoticons008.gif" |
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9:07 am Friday, 27th March, 2015
I am married, I love my wife dearly, but she does have a very low sex drive. So I have strayed and have always been honest with the person I have been with that I am married and this is purely two consenting adults enjoying life. I have always lived with the one thought, life is very short, we only get one shot at life, so make the most of it.img src="imagesadultemoticons001.gif" |
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10:19 pm Friday, 27th March, 2015
Dear lord that would bring a tear to a glass eye Psavour. Don't envy you but admire you in a strange kind of way for your conviction to see things through till the bitter end.
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7:01 am Saturday, 28th March, 2015
HV: The truth is my original blog was an amazing master piece where I basically was wondering if the fact that you are married has any effect or not in other members here. However, I was also thinking that we have been talking about how men get isolated a little but in case of women, it is almost like a magnet so I was thinking the standards seemed to be different. I hope this helps :) |
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11:42 am Saturday, 28th March, 2015
Actually that's true: If a woman outs herself as being married on a site like this, it tends to suggest that she only wants casual sexual activity, which is a situation that would seem to suit most men just fine :-) However, for men, fessing up as being married on a profile seems to be the kiss of death :-) It may be that married men are more attractive to women in the real world rather than via sex sites: perhaps for some women who get to know a married man - for example in the workplace - there reaches a point where his known qualities begin to outweigh his marital status. |
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1:27 pm Saturday, 28th March, 2015
But good girls don't flash their chest, most use their brains as a means to dazzle others, rather than their other assets. Anyway in this cold weather it's not a good idea to flash anything for fear of thenit turning to ice and being snapped off if not handled carefully. Waiting for the warmer weather is a nightmare in this countryimg src="imagesadultemoticons022.gif" |
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2:36 am Monday, 30th March, 2015
I believe that honesty is best all round, in every situation that may come up in our lives. Wouldn't act in a different way when the subject of ifi was married or single ever came up, though wonder if that is due to the fact that after
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3:33 am Monday, 30th March, 2015
I have chatted with some people here about what it seems the the double standards in relation to genders and marriage.
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3:33 am Monday, 30th March, 2015
I have chatted with some people here about what it seems the the double standards in relation to genders and marriage.
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10:01 am Monday, 30th March, 2015
On the whole, I would say that women tend to be more vengeful creatures than men. If they consider themselves to have been wronged by men in the past, they don't suffer fools gladly on sites like this. This situation compounds the fact that women by nature already have an instinct for being extremely choosy about whose bodily fluids they share, as they are the ones who have to deal with the consequences of accepting a "loser's DNA" :-)
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11:21 am Monday, 30th March, 2015
Interesting comments so far and seeing the comments about the double standards about men or women being married. It seems like it boils down to when men are married and on here then they are classed as liars, cheats, unfaithful, ... but if a married woman is looking for a meet up then it doesn't seem to matter. Is that because most guys don't care and just want a quick shag so to speak?
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12:24 pm Monday, 30th March, 2015
hullbuddy: I suspect your situation is way more common than you might think. I reckon a surprising number of married married women would be supportive of husbands looking elsewhere if they were unable or no longer interested in having sex, and likewise many of their husbands still have affection for their wives under these circumstances and have no desire to change their lives. If anything, I would say this indicates a greater degree of maturity in a relationship than guys who completely lose their heads and want to "run off" with another woman who shows sexual interest. |
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12:39 pm Monday, 30th March, 2015
skebbie, thanks for the comment.
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1:08 pm Monday, 30th March, 2015
Yes I agree it cuts both ways. There is no gender monopoly on losing sexual enthusiasm within a long-term relationship.
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3:31 pm Monday, 30th March, 2015
"just doing what I need to be normal. "
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3:53 pm Monday, 30th March, 2015
I think I just need to add one thing....All people need to do what they consider it is the best thing to be happy. As long as they do not hurt anyone and they are honest, it should be their right.
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6:17 pm Monday, 30th March, 2015
I tend not to judge, but rather evaluate every different set of circumstances as and when i come up against them.
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8:12 pm Wednesday, 1st April, 2015
img src="imagesadultemoticons015.gif" to be honest, I will say no!
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