What do I hope to achieve by joining the site?

I believe in absolute honesty and transparency, even if it means that I am opening myself up for trouble at some future point. I’m sure I’m not the only one, but I am deeply conflicted within myself and those that love me are worried that I can’t find what I truly want on the site. So I will try to explain why I joined the site and hope that someone might tell me if I am misguided or not.

There are two scenarios which I would like to achieve, theoretically.

Scenario 1
I am a single straight male, and I would like to attend a Swingers club. Maybe only once, but as a sexual experience it is something I would like to try. I’m not a confident guy and very sexually inexperienced so this would be a step outside my comfort zone. I’m excited and intrigued by greedy girl nights, slurp ramps, glory holes and cinemas where you can pleasure yourself. I’m concerned that I will be expected to pleasure or be pleasured by other men, which is something I am very uncomfortable with but I have no problem with anyone who is bisexual or homosexual.

Scenario 2
I would like to find one woman, to have a romantic relationship with. Ideally for me this would be a monogamous relationship, because I am insecure and inexperienced. I’m not sure how and if I could handle the person I am affectionate with, showing that affection to another man. Hopefully I will be able to find someone who feels the same way; who is sexually open to new experiences but once in a committed relationship only wants to explore with that one person.

Once again I’m just being honest; I hope that my scenarios make sense and don’t come off as wanting your cake and eating it too because nothing could be further from the truth. As a single man, I want to explore, love and satisfy as many women as possible. However once in a committed relationship I will devote all my time, energy and love to that one person.

Sorry it took so long to explain my thought process and thank you for reading. Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated.

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