Adult dating deal-breakers: are your criteria reasonable, stringent, or just plain wacky?

Hmmm very thought provoking as it is meant to be... Well for me hygiene would definitely come top of the list and then, for me to interested, I have to be both physically and intellectually attracted to someone. I get bored if someone can't hold a conversation.

Hi Lishy I totally agree as like you my time is limited and hence I have been specific in my profile but, just to reassure you guys out there, I also always check out someone's profile if they take the time to message me to see if it is someone interesting and will say if they are not for me to save wasting both their time and mine x

Speaking as a Cumbrian, in the company of so many sheep, perhaps sometimes even a human dating partner might not be entirely essential :-)

Well, I think I have just stated in my profile no more than 50 (sorry guys) and no couples (sorry too)....other than that I need to definitely be attracted to them physically in some way and be stimulated mentally....I don't care about sick packs...

I love big eyes in men especially blue but I don't write that in my profile because it is absurd and I like to chat to diverse people....For me, it is all about chemistry and attraction...Taller than me is definitely preferable...

Well, I think I have just stated in my profile no more than 50 (sorry guys) and no couples (sorry too)....other than that I need to definitely be attracted to them physically in some way and be stimulated mentally....I don't care about sick packs...

I love big eyes in men especially blue but I don't write that in my profile because it is absurd and I like to chat to diverse people....For me, it is all about chemistry and attraction...Taller than me is definitely preferable...

Sensual, I just realized I wrote SICK PACKS....well, they do make me sick becaue I don't have them and will never do...lol

No umbrage at all with regard to personal choice. The point of my blog is that many people seem to restrict their choices to within a very narrow range, and what interests me are the criteria people adopt for accepting or rejecting potential sexual partners.
They may be conventional or they may be weird - but I wanna know what they are, and why.

Hmmm what can i say - My criteria is mine and suits me, after all it's me i'm out to please (well i do hope to please who ever meets my criteria as well, but that's a whole other topic lol) But you see we all like what we like,no one has the right to question our choices as they are after all 'our' choices. Can't say i've come across anyone that has made me want to bend or break from my 'wish list' but then again i've not really been looking at the moment, been far too busy having fun ;-)

Have to say i also have a thing for tall men, yes i know that wouldn't be difficult seeing as i'm only 5ft 2 but i do like men 6ft and above Pwoarrr (the taller the better) It all comes down to personal free choice.

SueChris Do they still make 'max factor'? I'm a bare minerals woman myself as hate my skin feeling caked and some look as though it's been mixed in a cement mixer and put on with a trowel, which is not a good look in my humble opinion :-) x

Not having a portable stove and a book of wabbit recipes added to working knowledge of showersbaths and a toothbrush are the bare minimum

Shhhh Suechris, an electric toothbrush (blushing) will say no more!! ;-) x

Sleep is for the dead, says me that's an insomniac so just jealous of anyone that can sleep img src="imagesadultemoticons009.gif"

Ahhh but you see Lishy this lady travels when something or rather someone is worth my while ;-) x

If a bottle of 'Cardhu' (other brands available) doesn't work i hardly thing one wee Irish would help me nod off into dream land SensualS lol

Not giving up my whisky or my coffee, oft Hell NO way!! :-) x

I live in the best place (Scotland) and have made friends with a chap that owns a specialist whisky and champagne shop in my area so i will stick to the good stuff, if i'm ever in your neck of the woods Suechris i'll bring you a couple of bottles :-) x

The pleasure would be all mine Suechris, as i always love giving gifts and do so whenever i travel, may take a wee dip in your pool though to cool off while i'm there ;-) x

Sue, blended whiskey is fit only for donating as a raffle prize.Nil Desperandum,I will bring a bottle or three of McCallans with me !

Bloody hell......well and truly blogjacked !! I disappear for half a day expecting to find on my return a thread of well considered responses, and what do I get?: with a few notable exceptions, a load of inconsequential chit-chat about electric toothbrushes and alcoholic beverages. I blame SS principally. Once she starts on the port she's a bit of a loose cannon :-)

(Desperately shuffling papers and clearing throat in an attempt to restore status quo........) What this was really about was not the usual list of "I like curvy birdstall blokesI have washboard Abs - plug, plug....." :-) But rather a list of more personally idiosyncratic tastes that you might harbour yourself, or have encountered during your experiences on the site.

For example, hypothetically speaking, would you -say- be totally turned off upon discovery that your potential date had occasionally smoked cannabis in the past, admitted to liking Cliff Richard, or had once shaken hands with Ed Milliband??? That being additional to other more exacting biometric criteria such as having to be between 43 and 44 years old, or having a penis length of 18cm +- 3mm.

I dunno - maybe I just pay too much attention to trivia on this site, but I must admit that it seems *some* people *do* have dating criteria that render them practically inaccessible to most mere mortals......

OK I give up. My next blog is going to be a treatise on electric toothbrushes, and I'll leave it to you guys to take it in whatever direction you choose. Which reminds me.....I've got a plane to catch shortly......... ;-)

"All"????
Not unless the grapevine has been humming with activity in recent months........ :-)

"You should know it never stops humming"

In that case I've no doubt that most bloggers here are also familiar with my UK address :-)

mac !!! (falls to the floor weeping hysterically with joy)

Your intervention was a breath of fresh air :-) Any chance of meeting for a pint? As my flight is 12 hours, I'll need extra rehydration.
Can't afford business class but this time I'm treating myself to Premium Economy. At least that way I'll have only one person to climb over en route to the bogs, as opposed to two.

'Men will be seven foot giants' .........Must remember to add that to my criteria Silly, though think i'll give the 'twenty inch penises' a miss. Just a thought i don't imagine i'll still be loitering around this here site in fifty years time so no need to change my profile in the near future :-) x

Aye but inches are going to be devalued pretty harshly when the euro explodes!

An interesting blog, distractions aside. And a good question. But I have to ask, was this issue raised by Skebbie's concern for those of us that may miss out with our highly selective criteria (curiously, I have quite fussy criteria but haven't written of them here because they are, as I have discovered, very dependent on the other party - Its not simple enough to say, for example, no ladies over 5'8 as no 2 ladies over 5'8 are the same!) or is it out of frustration that many criteria don't include him? No idea of the answer to this, just wondering! - I haven't viewed Skebbie's profile to check tghis theory....yet....

Any advice on what words or letter combinations to avoid?

Thanks for the explanations.... everything is so much clearer.... or at least I feel that it should be...

Rusty: Thanks for sticking to the blog topic :-) I'm actually quite happy with my.......er......."biometrics", religion (or lack of), age, race, intelligence level etc. (OK it would have been nice to have a face like Clooney or Downey Jr but I suppose we can't be perfect..... :-)

Part of my activity here (and on other sites) is simply "people watching", and that includes men as well as women, the rationale being not only to size up the competition, but also to give me an idea of any particular woman's taste in men by looking at her friends or hotlist. Quite often that can reveal whether I'm likely to be wasting my time. (I realize this is probably mildly disconcerting for men I've viewed because they probably wonder what the hell I'm playing at :-)

So in the course of my "travels" around the profiles, the strictness of some people's criteria was something that struck me - hence this blog. Personally I'm totally cool about age and will happily date anyone from 18 to 80, but there are certain biometric criteria that will bump some ladies up the queue......so to speak, because physically I'm not a massive hunk of a bloke myself, and I do have certain aesthetic tastes. Similarly, I love women of all ethnicities. Therefore I reckon my tastes are pretty catholic and I'm relatively easy-going.

However, I would say it's not so much of an over-generalization to say that women (as opposed to men) do tend to have narrower criteria, whether it be in terms of age, musculature, ethnicity, fetish, etc. Personal taste is, of course, the bottom line here, but I can't help thinking that some people are so fixed on some ideal type up on a mental pedestal that they can't see the other delights the world can offer them.

SS: "Blog-lagged" ?? That might be a new experience :-) And I think I'd prefer to avoid being hi-jacked :-)

I've never thought of myself as 'an adult dater', but if I am then I guess my deal-breakers would be:

Lack of ...
Humour; charm; manners.

Inability to ...
Make me feel comfortable; demonstrate that he 'fancies' me (just a lottle).

Other ... (not in order of priority)
Smokes
Below the age of 40
Willy the size of my index finger (Note: I have small hands)


I could go on - my list is endless.
It's not that I'm a fussy bitch ... I just know what I like.

:-)

No I'm afraid not.....but I think I know what you mean :-)

As for Luv2.......if you have your own alternative term for "adult dating" I'm curious as to what it might be. I tend to use that term for convenience to cover most of what goes on on sites such as this, but basically I mean something like "men and women enjoying dates together for the purpose of fulfilling "adult needs"". I'm always willing to learn new terminology, however, if you have a better way of defining it.

How about just dating... isn't that where it all starts?