Do you think less leads to more desire?

I tend to shoot form the hip and tell it how it is,lovely lady.
For example, if someone reminds me of a younger and more beautiful Cleo Laine,I say so ! ( can you sing over 4 octaves ,by the way ? )xxxx

Awwww Fetch (mwakk!) I would just do for you my friend!

My own experience - such as it is - leads me to conclude that less is indeed more. I can (and do) flirt a lot but when it comes to answering the question "what would you like to do to me?" I find it quite difficult. Not only that but there is a better than even chance that I will get it completely wrong, and my thing about the welding goggles and tin of swarfega will be misinterpreted and I will lose out.

My view is that chat, and blogs, and other cyber exchange is merely a very very light introduction which will develop with little effort if the chemistry is right.

I do like open-ness and spirit though - that is always immensely attractive.

Now where did I put those welding goggles?

I'm very matter-of-fact in the opening stages of any connection made on this site. If I contact a woman spontaneously then I would have thought it would be pretty obvious that I fancy her and want to know more - otherwise why would I be doing it ?

I realize that some women may find it flattering that a guy has the hots for them, but in the early stages my own personal feeling that it's a bit weird to start "love bombing". There's plenty of time for that later once we've become acquainted face to face, and that sort of stuff tends to come out spontaneously when you start learning things about each other's character, looks and talents in the real world. I know some guys are not averse to laying it on a bit thick via blogs, chat and mail, but there's something about me that squirms inside at the thought of using a term like "lovely lady" to someone I barely know (sorry Fetch - no offense mate, but that's just the way I am).

At least two people on this blog are well aware of my private communication style, and both of them will tell you I'm fairly spare on the praise and flattery :-) I feel more comfortable about simply ascertaining the facts, and then if two people begin to feel they can start weaving something exciting from that thread, then it may lead to something more fleshy and substantial in the real world. So yes, I guess I do believe that less often leads to more than you bargain for :-)

Happy New Year to all!!! Thanks for your nice replies....I am always delighted to see so many great people here trying to show care and understanding....People talk a lot about diversity and intercultural understanding but they forget about the basic kind to accept people for what they are without being judgmental. I hope this year you find not just on this site but in your life, the happiness you all deserve...img src="imagesadultemoticons001.gif"

i agree with him totally as im sure lots of girls here get tired of the same old dirty talk. sure it can be nice when you get to know someone well enough to be comfortable with it. ps. think you are truly lovely.

Bradley: Thank for your nice compliment. I wish there were more guys who actually thought before asking you for your naked pictures. I suppose I am thankful in a way if they ask me that so then I just stop all chatting....Good luck on the site!

Macbloke: You are indeed a lucky guy. I wish you the best and she is also a lucky lady I must add, I can just perceive people and you seem one of the good guys to be kept.

Mapsbilly: I do agree on your comment. I think two people should do anything they want to and desire to as long as they both agree on what they consider sensual and sexy. Privacy and trust being the key words :)