The things they say to get in your pants

mmm interesting...

I am unsure as to where the blogs fit in the intellectual spectrum but they do make a pleasant change from the otherwise direct and no holds barred options of, say, the chatroom or emails.

As for the other assertions I remember my first encounter being pretty earth shattering for a nice boy like me brought up in a one horse mountain area and then spending most of my adult life following a behavioural regime which was supposed to keep us off the front pages of the Daily Mail.

Whilst not earth shattering it was utterly memorable and hugely liberating. Subsequently I have linked up with folks who I do stay in touch with and have seen again a number of times. The liberation is in the no-strings bit but connections are made non the less

Above all though I have found that whilst the actual encounter is fun, the preamble and the afterglow is equally important, the delicious decadence in a world full of compliance is, for me, a perfect foil for long hours of drudging ordinariness.

A lovely lady once described it to me as "sex for the brain" and she was right.

Now - where's that hoop?

Hotlips there's a balance to be had ive just looked at your pics and come down to your view id rather not go through preamble to get to you lol i do have a high iq though however seems to go astray

There is no doubt I would of thought, that the physical act of sex does not require a meeting of minds.
How much more pleasant it is though,if one finds compatibility in communication,personality ,shared interests, a liking for one another,similar sense of humour and so on.
Just my own thoughts but looking back, the best times were with those who I now count as friends.

I'd be glad of the opportunity to do some hoop-jumping!

Being a single guy on here is like being a Leper with complications

Hotlips: Reading what you've said, I'm just wondering whether you are, in fact, extolling the virtues of the "meaningless fuck" :-) Would you, after all, prefer to simply select a young hunky bloke with a low IQ for half an hour of pneumatic bliss, and then go your separate ways ?

Contrary to popular belief, and as echoed in some of the posts above, a proportion of males *do* in fact enjoy other aspects of the male-female dynamic apart from getting their date's legs parted ASAP :-) On the other hand, I've not yet found any convincing evidence that my blog activity has made me any more appealing to women. I even wrote a separate blog about this topic myself (qv).

As for "jumping through hoops"........in my experience I've found that if I keep my line trailing in the water, at some stage I'll get a bite. I just continue being my natural self, and if what women see of me doesn't appeal, then "there'll be another one along in a minute" :-)

Hotlips....this is a great one here, and has made me stop and think. Maybe part of it IS, as you say--the "need to make ourselves feel better about casual sex by making it sound more than what it usually is, a glorified one night stand."

Deep down, I'm still insecure enough to fall into the trap at times of the thinking I grew up with (omg, what a slut for doing that!!). Do we all have that thinking, in some deep dark recess of our brain?

But as far as wanting generic anonymous sex--we could find that in any pub or public toilet, right? So why come here? the chance to connect a bit. I've found many men, as well as women, even if they don'twon'tcan't meet, just like to have some risque human connection on whatever level.

I find the build up to meeting someone so amazing, though. You've chatted and got to know them, then comes the wondering, the excitement...that doesn't happen when it's a quick meet. Also, if it goes further than drinks, there's the fact of having something to talk about after.

When the common interests are there, there's also (more of?) a chance of it happening again. You know if you're both looking for more than one time (assuming it's all gone right the first time).

Will ponder this one a while, I think.

There's also the thrill of the chase to not be forgotten, and the concept that something's not worth having if it's just too easy.

I also pay heed to the evolutionary drive to make sure that any potential shagee is not a rabbit cooking loon who will attempt to complete the deed by bitinmy head off!

We're just the opposite, for us we want the least amount of small talk as possible, forget the chat, let's just fuck!

I'm far from being a specialist when it comes to seduction, nevertheless I'm glad for my friendship to be accepted because I have learnt quite a lot reading your blogs.

It seems that at the end of the day even on this site finding a suitable partner is even harder than in the conventional society because of the special requests.

I have been fully straightforward with my introduction the only thing that doesn't appear is my name, obviously it's something that can be shared if a meet occurs.

Hopefully something will come out from browsing those pages.

By the way as a noob I wonder how the classic members are managing to chat ?

No strings, yes. Connection, yes. Attraction, yes
Guilt, no.
My situation affords me guilt free adventure. This is my escape from my world which is generally crammed full of social rules. My bad ...

I live under a bridge...

I have but I don't use it.

If you don't get my mind, you don't get my body....

Isn't that the absolute truth? It seems, in general, women have such an itinerary that one wonders where there will possibly be time to fit "you" in as it were. "Laid" "Layed" is not a word :)

Thanks for the genuine replies to those that answered

Fanks for the spelling help lolol!

Depends on how big hoops are lol

Spot on xx