Is she flirting or Just being nice?

I'm a woman and I don't even know.

But trust me chemistry is a chemistry.

As a girl, I’m going to be straight forward with you guys. Sometimes girls will flirt because it makes them feel awesome when someone likes them. They might not care that they don’t like you back but they will still flirt with you and get your poor man hopes up.

Not all girls do this but plenty of them do. Definitely going to agree with previous comments. You seriously won’t know until you make your move. If she cancels on you (don’t try more than 2x) that’s when you know, she’s just not that into you. Bitches be runnin’ wild.

My “niceness” gets misconstrued all the time. I personally don’t feel that I am being flirtatious but it usually leads to a situation I prefer not to be in. Especially being in marketing (in a male driven industry), it’s my job to be nice and build working relationships. It definitely gets uncomfortable pretty often. I’ve always been a nice/sweet person to begin with, I usually back away from confrontation, and I hate when people are mad at/disappointed with me, so I can see how I can put myself in these situations.
It really does suck that being nice and just simply showing some interest from one being to another gets so easily mistaken for flirtation, etc.

For me, if I want to see you, I will make it happen. Straight up. You ask me out Friday and I’m actually busy, not just uninterested? I will suggest Saturday. You tell me your hobby and I wouldn’t mind tagging along? I’ll say: “ooh, I’ve always wanted to try LARPing, basket weaving, ammo reloading, whatever else.” When I met my SO, my phone didn’t register his number or something. Sounds convenient, right? Well, I had him look at my phone and gave him an email in the meantime. If I weren’t interested, the phone would have never worked again…
EDIT: His phone number didn’t work because I put in the wrong area code – his and mine are 1 digit off.

Whenever I flirt with someone I like, I always catch myself with a stupid SMILE on my face long after they’ve walked away. Maybe steal a glance after the conversation is over, if she’s still smiling, she’s probably into you.

Pretend she is a man (assuming you are straight). If your interpretation of the interaction is unchanged, she’s being nice. If all of a sudden you feel uncomfortable, she is flirting. Point being, you probably already know whether or not she is flirting – people just have an unfortunate tendency to see what they want to see, and not what is actually happening.

Touching!- Headbutts, Hugs, Soft Punches, Adjusting clothing or hair, piggy backs, arm wrestles grabbing and pulling are all sure fire signs you’re in. On the other hand the friend zone is that 5 foot no touching radius that she is maintaining.

A big hint is when you ask her to hang out and she makes an excuse. A girl who really wants to spend time with you will suggest an alternative time!

Touching! If the girl is touching you while she’s laughing at your jokes, or listening intently to your story, it’s because she’s interested.
I mean prolonged, blatant physical contact. Not “She gave me a high-five! Guess who wants the D?!”

This is tough. When I met my ex boyfriend, I spent an hour at the bar talking with him and seeing as interested as I could, trying to be flirty. I still wasn’t sure if he got the hint until I took his hand and dragged him to the dance floor. I think he caught on then. I guess my advice is, if a girl seems to be giving you a lot of attention, especially if you are in a group of people, chances are she’s flirting with you.

I can only speak for myself, but I’m friendly, very friendly with both sexes. I talk to people I first meet as if we’re old friends, I’m physically touchy and I make eye contact and smile at everyone.
But if I am romantically interested in you I WILL let you know immediately and bluntly.
So to me it depends on each woman’s personality. Some women will even act apathetic towards you and not make eye contact. But in a general sense I would say eye contact, smiling, and finding reasons to touch you.
If you’re interested in her and you’re interested in her then the only way to 100% know is to ask her. It is easier said than done, but the only person stopping you is you. Have more confidence in yourself and don’t take things so personally.

Honestly, politeness is so rare now people can mistake it for flirtation.
I’m pretty bad at conversation, but one thing that has always been correct when it comes to boys for me: if part of you accidentally touches the other person, and he/she doesn’t move, he or she likes you.
For example, if you sit at a table together and her legs are against yours, but she doesn’t seem bothered by it or move, she’s probably into you.
I think I’m just terrible. My ex boyfriend probably thought I had a speech issue or something like dyslexia when we met, because I get VERY nervous and jumble my words. It was crazy embarassing!

Lastly, In my opinion, don’t worry about it and just assume she is flirting and go for it regardless. It will probably lead to more success that way, than mulling it over.
Goodluck...

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