Unexpected Romance - Help

I have been 100% honest with him, he knows that I'm happily married. But you are right, I think I will discuss this with him. I think he has more at stake than I do if he's hoping this can go beyond a friendship and the occasional hookup. Thanks for your insight.

Really good point Lishy.

Well, we talked further about how we might or might not feel for each other. I'm feeling good that we are on the same page. He's not being pushy at all about meeting and he told me from the beginning that he's not one for just a hookup. He's managed to make me so comfortable about my first time. We have decided to meet to talk face to face. I'm thinking about everyone's comments here and figure, considering I was originally looking for superficial sex, the thought of finding a friend with benefits is attractive to me. And if he's just trying to get into my pants and is just telling me what I want to hear to get there then so be it, at least I still got what I originally was looking for. Sure it might hurt if it turns out he's leading me on, but I'll get over it.

Well, we are meeting tomorrow at his place. We have been emailing and texting a lot that last day or so, we feel so right for each other. I really hope this works out. I've never had a friendship formed online before. I really don't know what to expect from myself. The thing is, we haven't exchanged any pictures other than face pics, we haven't had "online sex" just talked about who we are and what we enjoy in life. I really hope I'm physically attracted to him, I hope he's attracted to me. I think I'm freaking out.

Someone make me feel better.

Stick to your guns. Probably not exactly correct (and certainly not politically correct) but in these circumstances I simply offer the advice given to the lower 6th by the physics teacher (who was incidentally found some months later getting across the lady lad assistant in a store room)..

Don't go for the first one that drops 'em for you....

Ahhh the joys of a grammar school education.

Thanks for all the comments. Really great. And I am so amazed with everyone on this site. When I first started blogging here I was expecting at least one person to be judgmental, but none. Wonderful people.

Sadly I had to reschedule our meeting until tomorrow... Great, another sleepless night. Lol. Everyone's comments certainly helped me to feel better and not so alone. Thanks.

"From some of the complements he has given me, I'm sure he is starting to feel the same way. "


Sometimes it easy to believe what you're being told, if it's exactly what you want to hear. I have a very cynical view on this and if someone started paying me complements after just a couple of days that made me believe he was getting 'emotional', I would be running for the hills flippin' fast.

Just my view ... but take no notice of what I say, I'm a heartless bitch.

Let's just say, that my heart tends to work well with my brain and when it comes to tolerating nonsense declarations after just a couple of days, it hides itself well.

Yep you are right, but I had quoted Jimmy, not Gingered.

Kettle's on. Would you like some homemade pie too?

I promise not to cut and paste again!! That should read 'compliment'.

Ronald, it's creampie - my favourite.
;-)

Well, it wasn't what it had imagined. I did learn a few things about myself. Not sure if I will be going back for seconds until we discuss a few things about our encounter. I do know that he wasn't just telling me what I wanted to hear. He really wants a relationship with me, he was sooooo into me. More than I was I'm afraid. This is going to be a problem I think. I need to cool things down, I need to explain that this has to be more casual for me to continue.

I feel another blog entry coming on. Lol

Ohhhh I'm rethinking. You are saying everything I'm thinking. Thanks for grounding me. I'm still formulating my thoughts before I email him.

You don't have to say it. I know you do by your comments here. Thanks.

You are scaring me now. I really hope that doesn't happen. He hasn't giving me any indication that he would be that way, but you don't know how people will react. We have exchanged some emails since we met and he is so far respecting my need for time to formulate my feelings. I respect him for that.

Hey guys.

I'm so happy to report that things are going really well with my new romance. He is really great. Very understanding of my feelings and I love that we are connecting on a personal level. He has been nothing but respectful about my preferences in bed and it's great.

I just want to thank everyone for their support and advice.

Jimmy.

See ..............

Goodnight said it in a far more genteel way than Gnu (his nickname) my physics teacher.

The messaged is the same though - if it looks too good to be true it almost certainly is...

I was back online here and thought it would be interesting to all in this thread to give an update.

After almost two years. We met three times for sex. He is still looking for someone serous. We both agreed that we weren't a match in bed very early on in our relationship and that's cool. But after two years we are still emailing and sharing what's going on in our lives. We talk about relationships we've had and give each other advice. It's kinda cool to have someone to talk with. I'm a compleatly different person than I was when we first met because of his guidance.

Just wanted to put this thread to a happy ending and let anyone who helped me figure things out know that things turned into a great friendship.