The missus and I have enjoyed this new chapter in our lives, but we have discovered it can be lonely here. Heaven forbid your neighbours, co-workers, family or local PTA members discover the things you do behind closed doors. We have also realized that this isn't really the kind of thing that you can easily share with friends. I have one, maybe two friends that I could share this with, but my wife reminds me that these are guy friends and in that small circle I would be branded a hero. Recently I was on out on a guy's weekend and my wife was genuinely concerned that I would share our secret. To be honest, i was afraid myself, knowing that the right mix of alcohol combined with the right conversation might easily coax it out of me. However, I remained vigilant and kept everything inside. I realized this weekend though, the cross that even the most sexually liberated women have to bear. My wife is out enjoying a girls weekend with some of her closest friends and I took this chance to turn the tables on her and ask if I had to worry about her sharing our new lifestyle with her friends. She responded with a resounding "no!" Then she explained that if her friends knew about this that she would face horrible judgement, damnation and persecution, and while it might be marginally excusable for a guy to behave this way, it certainly was not acceptable to do so as a woman. Or at least not in the circles that she hangs out with. I felt sad for her. And in a way, I kind of feel sad for any woman that feels that way. I believe that both men and women are equally perverted and the idea of sex with random and multiple people is exciting for both sexes. However, it is truly unfortunate that when a man embraces the aforementioned it is celebrated, but when a woman does the same it is frowned upon. It is a sad state when the largest barrier for women considering this lifestyle is societal repercussions.
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9:55 am Sunday, 16th March, 2014
I have told my best friend about being here and she has even gone in the chatroom a few times when we were together to see what it's all about. I don't know what I'd do without someone from my real life knowing. |
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12:12 pm Sunday, 16th March, 2014
I would tend to agree that women tend to be harder and more moralistic on their own sex if they perceive one of their own is doing something "naughty": especially in an environment like the PTA (haha...). |
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1:45 pm Sunday, 16th March, 2014
I choose to keep my private life just that "private". |
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2:29 pm Sunday, 16th March, 2014
"mainly because i'm very shy and introverted." |
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3:54 pm Sunday, 16th March, 2014
One of the attractions that I find on this site is that you can be quite open and not be judged by people (or at least not to my knowledge) . I admire the members who are willing to reveal their identities and even more so the ones that tell close friends about it. I would never tell anyone about me being here and even if it did slip out in a drunken moment I think they'd be so shocked that they wouldn't believe me anyway :) |
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6:03 pm Sunday, 16th March, 2014
It seems from what you say that you see the situation that you find yourself in as a disadvantage, a kind of millstone to be born grudgingly. Well my take is that your secret is something rather special and should be savoured privately rather than declared publicly. No one else needs or deserves to know and you are the liberated ones. So enjoy the dark secret safe in the knowledge that it is just that - a lovely, wicked, mind blowing dark secret! |
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6:57 pm Sunday, 16th March, 2014
I prefer to keep it a dark secret. One of the few aspects of my life that is truly mine! |
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5:06 am Monday, 17th March, 2014
Each to their own, but there is a downside if you are bf & gf, it can lead to one cheating, if you on a site as a couple imperative that you are honest. Yes my bf, now known as Ronseal11 cheated big style, dont blame the other ladies they didnt know about me, so please couples be honest with your partner, makes for a better time. |
