Bi not Gay what are your views on bisexuality

I'm absolutely not averse to touching a bi male if he's part of a couple during a 3p, as long as he realizes I don't fancy him :-)

Given that most "couples" profiles seem to be run by the male, if a couple with a bi male happen to view my profile or contact me, I can only assume that in most cases I'm being eyed up by the male and not the female :-)

I've lost count of the number of times I get fixated upon by such couples, who may keep viewing my profile multiple times. However, as I clearly state I'm straight, hardly any of them contact me, which again tends to suggest I'm being perved at by the male :-)

I suppose if I was bi and part of a couple, I'd tend to look for other bi males, rather than straight guys, if I was trying to find a third party for 3p.

Thanks skebbie and bbwlicious, two sensible and positive responses. Skebbie I have to say that I have had strictly straight couples look at my profile regularly so it may not be just the guy who is perving at you. Quite a lot of people seem to look without going further at the time - maybe they will in future :-)

As I state on my profile, being bi would broaden my horizons and opportunities, but as I edge towards my 6th decade, I know for sure that only women can do it for me. So yes, I suppose you could say I feel a certain envy there :-)

Another amusing little gem that sometimes crops up on profiles is so-called straight men who claim to be "orally bi". To my way of thinking, that simply means they are not straight (lol). Or are they saying that they will grit their teeth and suck for England if it offers them a slightly increased chance of getting into someone's wife's knickers ? :-) Oh the sacrifices some people have to make in order to get a shag....... :-)

"chocolate starfish"
What an excellent term. Thank you for introducing it to me :-)

Of course there seems to be a concept shared by a number of people in relationships that it's not strictly "cheating" (although I hate that term) for a manwoman to shag someone of the same sex.

Of course not everyone subscribes to this view, as I can see from Curvy's response.

I see sexual preference as just another aspect of someone's make-up; I'm either attracted to it or I'm not.

There was an article about bi'ness in a mag, sometime last year that questioned whether or not it actually existed. It took a guy wearing a white coat in a lab somewhere to confirm it did.

In short, it said bi guys are romantically attracted to women and are usually partnered or married to women. They can be sexual with women they love, but they are predominately aroused and driven sexually by their interest in sex with other guys.

Not sure how accurate the article was, but there could be some mileage in it.

To put my oar back in - I will agree with that article up to a point - with a girl it tends to be a romantic attraction and I do need to "fancy" a girl before I would want sex with her - with men it does tend to be just lust - I don't actually fancy men in the way I do girls - ok now I have thought about it does that make me weird?

Bmale, to be fair, I think most of us are a bit weird ... probably.

Luv2 and whoever:
That's the nub of the matter: romantic attachment. Some partners may tolerate their better halves shagging others, providing it's just for lust and not love. We see it often enough even among straight-straight couples: isn't that what "swinging" is all about? And perhaps it becomes even less of an issue if one (or both) of the partners is bi, and has little flings and knee-tremblers with same-sex FBs.

And yes, we are all weird in our own way. In fact I think that the word "weirdness" is synonymous with "diversity": and humans are certainly diverse :-)

Thanks people - lots of great comments and views - and I feel a little less "weird" now lol.