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How to keep the ones we meet?

3:44 pm Friday, 28th October, 2022

Hubbers,


This is a genuine concern for me. For everyone in the know, I'd like to get your advice. We are all here to meet like-minded people and make the most out of the connections we build.


The question is, "how do we keep them in our lives?"


I've met amazing and beautiful people here. I've learned so much. Experienced so much. After a while though, it seems life goes on for everyone else and I'm the only one left waiting on my end for some kind of friendship. Maybe I'm the problem, expecting that the bridges we built will always stand and that we become buddies outside of the naughty and the dirty, but I firmly believe that that should be the case.


Hear me out on this. If you've been able to connect even on a small scale, enough to lead to a night of passion and intimacy, shouldn't it be a given that a bond has been made? Even if the sex was that bad (and I'm not saying this is the case, because it was fucking awesome - for me at least), a certain level of companionship exist between us. You may choose to never call me again for the deed, but at the very least, we can have coffee and laugh about the things that happened. We can be friends because we have seen and done things together, too intimate for other people to understand. We have an inside joke just for us.


It's not my business to meddle in yours, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested to know more about you. It doesn't mean I can't be concerned about you. And I know some of you will argue that I don't understand that some people just want one night stands with no strings attached, but really, is it so wrong to do the polite thing and ask once in a while if the person(s) I choose to be intimate with are doing okay?


I spent an intimate time with you. Is it really okay to not give a fuck after the fuck has ended? Not in my books. Afterall, I bared my entire being to you and you to me, the least I can do is ask how you are doing from time to time. And NO, this is not a booty call. I care. Genuinely.


So again, I ask, "how do you keep the ones you meet here?"


I'll wait for your comments so I can grasp the idea. Please be kind in sharing your wisdom, any feedback is much appreciated.


Stay safe and best regards to everyone!


Sincerely,


ValPortin






Comments
4:03 am Tuesday, 1st November, 2022

We have people we meet here some couple and some single guy and girl we became friends and regular playmates. We get in touch once in a while but the only thing we must keep in mind that we are only friends even if we already have intimate moments. They should not assume more than friends. They must know their limitation and act accordingly. Remember we are a couple and have our own life and we love each other. Hope you find your partner and become friends too. Happy hunting

8:45 am Saturday, 5th November, 2022

People have different reasons for coming here for adult fun. Some keep coming back to escape from the daily grind, while others are simply in it for that one-time experience. No matter what the purpose is, even the best of meets have a very short shelf life. The connections that also make their way into the real world may be due to discovered commonalities. 

When the light is turned back on, you somehow aren't the same person anymore, because you learn something or gain insight about yourself or others. But then, the need to keep the bond is literally a result of hormones being released and then withdrawn. You look for that warm, intimate gesture, like an embrace, but this may not be expected from you by your partners and you must simply leave on a good note.  Often, in the case of a third wheel in an arrangement, keep in mind that you remain an outsider. Count yourself lucky if you are invited back, because that means you have earned their trust. As for one-on-ones, catching feelings is, more often then not, a liability. Keep it real, an exchange of fluids doesn't go beyond that. Instead, count on the great memories, they'll also keep you company in times when you need to be cheered up. 

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