SUB DECLARATION OF INTENT Dom

My first sub and I recently had our second date and we signed an agreement. We decided to call it a "declaration of intent" since we think that's a more accurate description what these agreements are. It is different in other ways from similar agreements and I'm hoping to get some feedback from people who are more experienced than me or my sub with the BDSM lifestyle.DOM / SUB DECLARATION OF INTENTDom and Sub do hereby declare their intention to enter a sexual relationship for their mutual pleasure to be implemented in three phases. Phases one and two will each comprise at least one session of sexual activity and may be extended indefinitely but both parties declare their intention to move on to the next phase after no more than five sessions.They will meet in his home, her home or in a hotel as is convenient and as time and schedules permit and Sub will without hesitation obey orders to carry out sexual activities as Dom shall deem appropriate. To wit:Dress/undress to Dom's specifications.Assume postures Dom specifies such as sitting, standing, kneeling, lying face up or face down,etc.Submit to gentle and rough massage as pleases Dom to give her. This may include spanking, slapping and mild choking.Submit to Dom's manual, oral or genital stimulation of any part of Sub's body and to give such stimulation to Dom as directed by him.During sessions in all phases Dom will address Sub by such terms as Bitch, Slut and W**re. Sub will address Dom by such terms as Sir, Boss, Master and Daddy. Between sessions both Dom and Sub will address each other by first name or by such endearments as please both.The inequality that will characterize their sexual relationship must not spill over into their relationship outside of sex.SAFEWORDSub will use the safeword “Pineapple” to convey that she has reached her limit for physical stress.PERMITTED TOYSblindfoldshandcuffsdildosvibratorspaddlesIn phase two bed restraints and ball gags will be added to the list of permitted toys.In phase three leash and collar will be added to the list of permitted toys.PRIVACYDuring phase one of their relationship no other person shall be in the room with them to watch or participate in their activities. Sub is aware that Dom has two housemates who may be in the house during their sessions but said housemates will not be in the same room with them during phase one sessions.During phase two at most two persons of either sex may join them to watch, to be watched, or to participate in such activity as Dom shall deem appropriate.During phase three Dom and Sub will routinely go to swing clubs to watch, to be watched, and to participate in activities with however many individuals Dom shall deem appropriate.Dom: ______________________ Date:_____________________Sub:_______________________ Date:______________________I am much too laid back to do a 24/7 hard dom routine. If I try I will fail horribly so I thought I would write that into our agreement -- that I am not a 24/7 dom. She is very skeptical of the whole group activity thing and that is why we say that phases one and two "may be extended indefinitely." But I am doing my best to give her the BDSM that she wants so hopefully she will eventually warm up to group activity because that is what I want.Let me know in the comments: Have you seen an agreement like this before? Does it fall short of what you expect of BDSM agreements or are the differences between it and other such agreements a welcome change?

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