*Honest thoughts of a Husband: Swinging!!*
As we have been married for a long time now, we are in a position to admit that we are each other’s first for everything, and we're still happily married. To spice things up, I do a lot of Homework and Swinging is a byproduct of that homework. I am not sure for how much time this will work, but I am sure the moment it will stop working I will take the first step to quiet it out.
We often ask each other 'sexy questions.' We'll ask each other how we feel about types sex with other people, how we feel when we assume some sexual fantasies of own and share the things, whether we'd like to have sex outside the bedroom, etc. This is something you should be doing regularly. I’m amazed at how many couples actually don’t talk about sex. Tell her your expectations and ask her about hers. You should know each other intimately. Also, talk about sex when you want it. Surprises are fun, but sometimes it helps her to plan on it so she can help herself get in the mood mentally. The list feels endless. Long relationships can easily get boring, but asking provocative questions keeps things fun.'
I have a special respect for marriage. I love every aspect of nurturing and sustaining a healthy marriage. One important aspect is intimacy. And yes, intimacy can be pretty broad as well, The fact of the matter is that generally men can get in the mood pretty easily. For women, it takes a bit more creativity. Luckily, I am writing something nowadays that is helping women to get in the mood, I am not kidding, I got some feedback from people that after reading our blogs few couples find a way forward, all those couples should be thankful to me, ha ha ha ha.
A good husband doesn’t want his wife to just get it over with. He wants her to want it. He wants her to feel as sexy as he thinks she is. He wants her to be in the mood. But how?Ask her about her day and really listen. Don’t try to fix anything. Put the phone away some times and look her in the eyes. If she’s down, be sympathetic. If she’s happy, be excited for her. Be genuinely interested in the small things that matter.
The secret to why me and Riya are still intimate is that we still like each other and we’re still each other’s best friend. That gets us through the times when we don’t particularly feel like ‘loving’ each other. As Riya sometimes says, ‘loving is a choice not a feeling.’ Because of everything we have been through together, good times and bad, we know that we’ll always be there for each other. That bond that makes intimacy a special gift that we will be with each other anyhow. NEVER, EVER plead, beg or cry for sex,at least with your wife. it makes you look like less of a man and less desirable.
Swinging is dangerous like alcohol. Having a few drinks is unlikely to ruin your relationship … unless your relationship already has problems. Maybe there are money troubles, or maybe you are having a disagreement, or maybe your schedule is too filled. If you don’t have a strong & stable relationship, then getting drunk at your local bar is more likely to cause big problems. It certainly won’t solve anything. When you work on your relationship and are ready to party & celebrate, then the alcohol & swinging will be waiting but until then you should probably hold off.
Swinging is not like those random, late-night, drunken hookups that are common among single people. Let’s be honest, drunk people make bad decisions. Swingers know that alcohol is a nice social lubricant, but it is also a boner-killer – so we as swingers avoid drinking too much. Going easy on the booze also helps protect us from doing something stupid that could hurt our relationship.
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